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Cheaters Are Meant for Eachother?
Cheaters Are Meant for Eachother? / Dating / 5:02 PM - Saturday June 04, 2005
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An Alternative Girl (Female, Portland, 29-35) asked:


Since I'm not the cheating type, if I had a partner who cheated on me, I couldn't get over it. So....partners who get cheated on who forgive the cheaters, are they the cheating kind too, and they just didn't get caught first? Hmm.
My reasoning goes with trust issues. Most cheaters I have known were otherwise not trustworthy types.


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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:


I was cheated on a long time ago. I have never cheated and couldn't stand the thought of it (even though I was tempted to get revenge, I didn't). Yet I forgave her ...after a LONG period of distrust... I did that because I did love her. It turned out however that I would have just been better off dumping her. I learned about her character through this incident among others. Sometimes love isn't a good enough reason to stay with somebody. So the jist of this answer is: People who forgive cheaters aren't necessarily cheaters themselves but rather, they could just be so in love that they are willing to be treated that way in order to stay with the person they love.

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A Thinker (Female, 36-45) answered:

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I FEEL THAT PEOPLE THAT STAY IN A RELASHIONSHIP WHEN THE PERSON HAS CHEATED, I BELIEVE THAT THE PERSON WHO TOLERATES IT HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM FOR TOLERATING THE DISRESPECT, AND ACCEPTING BEING LIED TO AND DECEIVED. AND EMOTIONALLY VIOLATED.

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A Thinker (Female, 26-28) answered:


In my case when my boyfriend first cheated I was pregnant, twenty years old and my family was out of state. I spent my whole life without my father, and did not want my baby to go through that. So I came back, he has cheated on me with about 4 or five people in our relationship. I stayed because then we had a baby and I didn't want the whole 2 houses, and 2 holidays and everything. We have been together 8 years and have 2 kids. Most of the time I think that me suffering through all of this finally got me to the point where he treats me how I deserve, but then other times I can't help but wonder if he's doing it again. And if he is would I be able to leave him?

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