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Stop dating stupid, ignorant, guys!
Stop dating stupid, ignorant, guys! / Sex & Intimacy / 2:35 PM - Thursday October 06, 2005
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A Trendsetter (Female, Charlotte, 36-45, Teaching) asked:


My response to Mr. "Stop Dating Single Moms" on the hot 10 list: I don't know what is up with you, but I am so sick of seeing your type of post. You and others who post similar comments really have no clue. If you don't think single moms are worthy enough to date, then fine, don't date them, but otherwise, we really don't give a crap about your ill-formed opinions. Single moms are women, mothers, people, who happen to find themselves not married and with kids for a variety of reasons, some of which they have no control over. It happens. Get over it. No single mother I have ever known has forced her date, f*ck-buddy, boyfriend, whomever, to be a daddy to her children. Most whom I know tend to keep their child out of the dating relationship until it's serious. And even then it's limited. Some single moms behave differently. That's how it goes. But you know what - some guys are nice, and some are dicks. Go figure. Doesn't mean I write them all off.


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A Married Girl (Female, Houston, 22-25, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: yellarose67


Right on Sista!

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Toronto, 66 or older, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: ultimateguitar


couldnt agree with you anymore. some people are very ignorant and stupid. way to stick up for your fellow ladies.
rockon!

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A Career Man (Male, Miami, 29-35, Technical) answered:

Screenname: weekendbrew


you go girl!

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A Hip-Hop Girl (Female, Columbus, 29-35, Technical) answered:

Screenname: poohbear1971


AMEN!!!...wait let me say it again AMEN!!! Thank you girl from one single mother!!

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A Guy Critical (Male, 36-45, Technical) answered:

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I agree. You will notice that the commitment level is who care's. I take this to mean dumped hard or is tired of being rejected. Ya' think there is a reason for this?

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 18-21, Administrative) answered:

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Amen! I'm not a single mother, but I know a few and they are very date-able. It's ridiculous how some just assume that they are out daddy hunting.

Have a good day.

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A Jock (Male, New Orleans, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: jakerbaker


Blow this type off. They are missing out on some fantastic women, which is okay by me, leaves more for the mature rest of us.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Philadelphia, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

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You go girl!

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Washington, DC, 36-45, Lawyer) answered:

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I agree, he's a total d!ck. I can understand preferring certain type of woman over others, we all have our own preferences when it comes to members of the opposite sex, nothing wrong with that. But what I don't understand is his need to get other guys to follow his way of thinking. Why does he care what others do?

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A Creative (Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

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Well said!


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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Charlotte, Who Cares?, Self-Employed) answered:

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YOU go girl!!

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A Trendsetter (Female, Minneapolis, 18-21, Who Cares?) answered:

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Well put, i'm a mom (not single) but...... it would piss me off too.

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A Career Man (Male, Washington, DC, 29-35, Technical) answered:

Screenname: aceldama


Valid points. Simply put, guys and gals need to know what they are getting into. I will say from my experience - the types of insecurities and needs a single mom has are different than a woman who has not had children. Some guys seem to fail to take this into account, and some single moms seem to ignore this as well when they are dating.

Humans... they'd do better paying attention to one another instead of making assumptions based on movies they've seen.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Chicago, 46-55, Political / Government) answered:


You are totally right. I have no problem dating a women with chikdren. Besides you can learn a lot about someone when they have children

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A Cool Mom (Female, Providence, 36-45, Food Service) answered:

Screenname: taylorsmom


i 2nd ur opinion...besides we can figure guys out faster too i think...

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 56-65, Civil Service) answered:

Screenname: firefighter1034


Ya done good girl. Way to go I'm on your side. Let the dumb asses have it.

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A Life of the Party (Male, New Orleans, Who Cares?, Law Enforcement) answered:

Screenname: papi84


Amen girl, some of the best pussy belongs to single mothers. who ever said that shit needs to get pussy whipped by a single mom.

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A Player (Male, Phoenix, 29-35, Science / Engineering) answered:

Screenname: seansluggo


Amen Sister!

Seansluggo

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A Creative (Male, Los Angeles, 36-45, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: goddard


Although I'd never diss a single mother, I wouldn't date one, either. It's simply that I want certain things in my life, and a single mother is not one of them.

Now, the fact that a guy don' date single mothers doesn't mean he is a "dick", just as a woman having sex outside marriage doesn't mean she is a slut.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?) answered:

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I've dated a number of single mothers. Despite this, I have to say that I am especially cautious around them and their children. I always wonder if and I see no reason why they aren't searching for a father to their children. I also look to see if they'd make good mothers to my children. So far, I've really only considered one. Her children and mine got along quite famously. Even so, I found her children to be difficult to control (not by me). I simply do not want to have to discipline or to be mad because I am not allowed to discipline someone else's child. I know (at this point anyway) that I can discipline my own.

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

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-------An Intellectual Guy (Male, Chicago, 18-21) answered:---

Screen Name: Anonymous

All valid points, but there are legitimate reasons to NEVER date a single mother.

1) Younger guys and guys who NEVER want kids have legit reasons to not date single mothers: I AGREE

2) You know if it gets serious, you will always be second to her kids: FUCKIN AY YOU WILL BE, AND THATS THE WAY IT BLOODY SHOULD BE!!!!

3) If you get her pregrant, you know she is not pro-choice, and I for one at least want that to be an option should it happen: OH YOU ARE SOOOO WRONG

4) Pussy will never be as good a chicks with not kids (face it, its true): YOU MEAN YOU ACTUALLY GET PUSSY? LET ALONE A DIFF VARIETY OF IT? pfft

5) If it gets serious, you are almost expected to become a father figure. Best to avoid altogether if you never want kids, and REALLY don't want someone else's kids.: I AGREE BUT THIS OPINION IS THE SAME AS THE FIRST ONE

6) Kids indicate CHAOS and BAGGAGE, which I'd prefer to avoid: DID WE ASK YOU?

Just my thoughts



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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Baltimore, 22-25) answered:


All valid points, but there are legitimate reasons to NEVER date a single mother.

1) Younger guys and guys who NEVER want kids have legit reasons to not date single mothers

2) You know if it gets serious, you will always be second to her kids

3) If you get her pregrant, you know she is not pro-choice, and I for one at least want that to be an option should it happen

4) Pussy will never be as good a chicks with not kids (face it, its true)

5) If it gets serious, you are almost expected to become a father figure. Best to avoid altogether if you never want kids, and REALLY don't want someone else's kids.

6) Kids indicate CHAOS and BAGGAGE, which I'd prefer to avoid

Just my thoughts

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