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Single moms..what type of impression do they make?
single moms..what type of impression do they make? / Sex & Intimacy / 8:11 PM - Thursday September 14, 2006
An Engaged Girl (Female, Las Vegas, 22-25, Other Profession) asked:


When you see a single mom is your first thought "single moms are sluts?" or..what type of impression do single moms give?

I was listening to the radio the other morning and this guy made this ignorant comment "single moms are sluts" but then he later apologized.

why would people even think that?


by the way that is so not true. anyone could be sluts!



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A Thinker (Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: italiangypsy


It is so not true! No one should criticize single mothers, they should be praised for taking care of the child on their own without the deadbeat "father" around! I can't see why anyone would think they were "sluts". There are a bunch of young girls screwing anything that moves, some just don't get caught.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Cleveland, 36-45, Lawyer) answered:

Screenname: mikehug


It would take a whole lot more than just seeing a single mom with a child to think she was a slut. First of all, if I just saw a woman alone with a child, I would have no idea if she were in a relationship with the dad or not.

Even if I knew she were single, I might not know why she's single. It could be she sleeps around and has kids with 3 different guys. That doesn't say a whole lot about her, I agree. But it could be just that she's divorced, or worse, widowed. Those things hardly make her slutty. So, ultimately, I think I'd have to know a lot more about her before I formed any opinions about her character.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 36-45, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: secretagentw7550


There's all the ingrediants for a success story. Single mothers work harder than everyone else...because they have to. It's a character-building experience that produces some of the strongest women. I am one, I own my own real estate franchise, and when a single mother walks in to place her license with me....I say a prayer of thanks. That's one woman who will succeed.

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A Career Woman (Female, Houston, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: txsophisticate


I am 43, have two adult daughters 25 and 18. I have raised my daughters by myself because they had dead beat dads. If anyone were to insult my girls or me like that, they would find out what a BITCH-SLAP is real fast. I'm not a slut, I'm not a bitch either...but anyone with that little of a heart, I wouldn't want to be around anyway.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: moonsweeper


I think "hey mother, want another?"

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A Guy Critical (Male, Singapore, 36-45, Technical) answered:

Screenname: podian


Honey,i believe strongly that no one in society has the right 2 accuse or brand single mothers as sluts or even in degrading remarks without knowing the truth n the reality behind the issue.Mistakes are made by both men n women but eventually in most cases the blame falls on the weaker sex n with a child it makes the situation even 4 the women 2 survive,please understand her plight n stop passing derogatory remarks,if possible help the mother n child,humanely,luv ya,bye.

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A Rebel (Male, San Jose, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: chavis


no no no no no.... he got it all wrong.... single moms are NUTS!!! not sluts hahahah

nah im just playing.... single moms are cool.... but what is a single dad? DUMB.... who knows....

ill just keep it simple... first thing i think when i hear the term single parent.... is that they are single.. and should get their mingle on.... after the kids go to bed ofcourse hahaha just playing around

no comment... thats my final answer

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A Thinker (Female, 22-25) answered:

Screenname: lovevictoria1


Thats the most retarded statement I have ever heard! "Single mothers are sluts"...Anybody that would even makes a comment like that should be smacked and humilated for the ass that they are. for the lady that wanted to question what happened to birth control I see your a class A murderer (I wonder how many abortions you had!) Single mothers are not sluts, they are women that didnt take the easy way out and took care of their responsiblities unlike the deadbeat losers that got them pregnant so dont assume single mothers are sluts...deadbeat fathers are sluts!!!!!!

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A Thinker (Female, 22-25) answered:

Screenname: lovevictoria1


Thats the most retarded statement I have ever heard! "Single mothers are sluts"...Anybody that would even makes a comment like that should be smacked and humilated for the ass that they are. for the lady that wanted to question what happened to birth control I see your a class A murderer (I wonder how many abortions you had!) Single mothers are not sluts, they are women that didnt take the easy way out and took care of their responsiblities unlike the deadbeat losers that got them pregnant so dont assume single mothers are sluts...deadbeat fathers are sluts!!!!!!

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A Thinker (Female, 29-35, Retail) answered:


The guys I've dated since my divorce know up front that I have children and if they don't like it, they know where the door is. I've had sex with 4 guys and I'm 29 years old, not very many by any standards.

I know personally I'm not a single mother by choice, I just ended up picking a loser for a husband and got divorced. I know that I am much MUCH better off without him and so are my children. My own father was a deadbeat and took off when I was 4, never heard from him again.

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A Thinker (Female, 26-28, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: schoolpsych


My story...single mom from a loser at age 18 (bad choices while in the military).

In the meantime I raised my son alone, got a college education, am currently working on my masters degree, and am well respected in my field (educational psychology).

Recently, two years ago, i met a man whom I thought was "the one"...we got engaged and I eventually got pregnant. Who was I to know he would end up being bi-polar and emotionally unstable.

So, here I am a college educated woman AND the single mother of two children...eight years apart in age...and I DONT seek a nicve guy to take care of them. In fact, Igo out of my way to keep men away. I do not seek to have children to secure my financial future...geez, do y'all know what kids cost? between clothes, food, sports, etc...the expenses are constant.

No woman would choose to be a single mother...I think it is ludacris that people suggest we intentionally got pregnant just to have kid and get support. Have you ever held a little boy on Father's day when they cried because they dont havea daddy like the other kids. Maybe people should be bashing the men who walk away and are content to simply cut a check each month. i would trade every dollar of the child support I receive for my son to have a father...but, if he cant be a man then he needs to provide financially so I am able to be there more for my son as a supplement to what he isnt receiving from two parents (emotionally).

Does that make me a slut? I think not.

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A Rebel (Male, Chicago, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:


i have dated many single mothers, and they all have one thing in common, the good moms at least. they put their children first, here is where the problems starts. when a single mom gets up early sends the kids off to school, spends all day at work and all evening with t-ball and ballet and the boyfriend is welcome to come over after bedtime stories for a quick romp in the hay as long as he's gone by 6 am so the kids dont get the wrong idea about mommy, it can start to feel like the guy is a sex object, and sometimes that seems wierd to some men. some single moms avoid long term relationships with men so there kids dont get attached, so there independance and revolving bedroom door policy can create the sluty perception.


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A Creative (Female, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:


single moms arent sluts its not their faults that the childrens daddys are worthless and run out. if u ask me men need to grow and and take care of what they help create. single moms are awesome because they raise their kids on their own and that takes alot. i have twins and its a job but they are precious and better off without their daddy.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 29-35, Student) answered:

Screenname: sociologist05


Honestly, my first thought is that they hate men. They used him to have "their" child and now use him to finance a life without him. And with the family court laws the way they are, they can do it.

Second thought is more of an evolutionary psychology kind of thought. She has decided on a guy who had the genes she feels would be a sucessful for her child in a bad boy. Now she's looking for a nice guy to help raise her child because nice guys are not sexually desirable.

Those are my thoughts.

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A Life of the Party (Female, 22-25, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: lilfivel3


what do you want, an honest answer, or a bull s**t answer??

bull s**t answer: they are strong, independent, way to go, ect ect

honest answer: where's the father, why arent they married, what happened, why didnt they use birthcontrol

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A Life of the Party (Female, 26-28) answered:


it almost seems like these days single mothers are more common than married ones so what narrowminded people say shouldn't concern you too much

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