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Cheaters suck at life
Dating / 6:35 PM - Sunday November 19, 2006

cheaters suck at life

I hate cheaters. I have never been cheated on, so don't think that I feel this way out of bitterness.
To me, cheaters are the lowest of the low. I will not be friends with someone who does it, because if they don't value their closest relationship, there is no way I can trust them either.
Their word, and therefore their friendship, is worth NOTHING.
Just thought I'd put that out there.

- Asked by mamasita, A Player, Female, 22-25, Medical / Dental

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you couldnt trust them even as friends.

my ex best friend cheated on her boyfriend who was also my best friend (awkwardddddd). After that I found out she had been backstabbing me for about a year.

what a bitch.

- Response by jinco1, A Player, Female, 22-25, Toronto, Technical

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I agree, I was friends with this woman once and she kept trying to justify seeing a married man, talking about how happy they both were, I was sick of it, so I said "why don't you call his wife and see how she feels about it?" That was the end of the friendship, but I say good riddance. She probably would have been hitting on my boyfriend next.

- Response by bourbon, A Hippie Chick, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I LOVE cheaters!! i think they are lovely caring honest!! amazing ppl.

weirdo

- Response by gbanga, An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

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I honestly have to say that I dissagree with you. You also have to look at why they cheated. Who they cheated on. What he/she may or may not have done to them. Also, you have to look at the other person, the one that the cheater cheated with.
There's so many aspects to a story, if you are in an abusive relationship, or if you are in a relationship where you do not get any attention. And I mean ANY attention at all, then is that really their closest relationship?
I'm sorry if this offends you. But I just needed to say that you need the whole story before you judge.
If the person was cheating for something new, then yes, feel free to hate him/her. If the person was cheating because they see no other way to effectively get out of the relationship, then you can't say that they aren't trustworthy. Wrong, yes, they made a mistake, yes, but not necessarily untrustworthy. Alot of cheaters cheat once, then feel horrible about it and never repeat their mistake.
Again, sorry if this offends you.
~*hugs*~

- Response by freakyinsomniak, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Edmonton, Student

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im sure u will change yr mind sometime. i used to be the same way u are. thought cheaters were disgusting pigs who were the filth of the earth and needed to burn in hell. etc etc. but..then i did it. the last thing i thought i would ever do. there were reasons for it, i didnt hide it or stay with my bf..bu tit was wrong. and i learned many things from it. dont be so judgemental. u dont know why ppl do what they do, but they have their reasons. repeated cheaters tho...sigh. thats another story.but seriously, someday u may surprise yourself.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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I completely agree. I have been cheated on, and you NEVER recover, ever. It is painful and deep. When the person you love and desire can get it up for someone else it hits a nerve unlike any other. I hope you never do go thru it...

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Administrative

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If you're happy and content in your life and everything's perfect, I'm very happy for you. But not everyone is the same. Everyone is different and every situation is different. I agree that usually there's a way around cheating, and it's not unavoidable, but it's VERY easy to do. Just because you're married/with someone doesn't mean there's not someone else out there who can't love you better or differently and that's a very intriguing idea for some people. Don't judge someone unless you've been in their exact situation and know ALL of the factors they're experiencing. Chances are if you were put in their shoes, 9 times out of 10 you'd do the same thing.

I can attest to this personally because I've cheated on my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (about a year ago). She didn't leave me, but she was devestated. She didn't understand how I could have feelings for someone else. Then, about 7 months later, whoops, guess what happened? She got a big fat slice of humble pie, and she made out with him. She's a bit more understanding now. Walk a mile in thier shoes, they go off at the mouth about your disgust. Thanks.

- Response by youzerfriendly, A Rebel, Male, 22-25, Who Cares?

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I USED TO FEEL THE SAME WAY, HOWEVER I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD BE SO JUDGEMENTAL. I HATED CHEATERS, THAT IS UNTIL I DID IT. YOU DONT KNOW EVERYBODYS REASON FOR CHEATING. I ONLY DID IT ONCE, WOULD NEVER DO IT AGAIN, AND I HAVE TO SAY ALL MY FRIENDS CAN TRUST ME MORE THAN ANYTHING. I AM A GREAT FRIEND. I AM IN A GREAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, AND I WOULD NEVER CHEAT AGAIN. THAT SAYING ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER IS NOT THE TRUTH EITHER. YOU SHOULD KNOW THE REASON WHY SOMEONE CHEATS BEFORE YOU WRITE THEM OFF AS A FRIEND. JUST PUTTING THAT OUT THERE.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Financial / Banking

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I have to say that those on here whom are so quick to judge really need to step back and look at their self. I am not certain , but pretty sure that those are individuals that have more then likely, were done wrong. See when it is you that is done, wrong. As they say. Ask, you Were you truly in the relationship? It is really hard to get a true answer from ones self but you know(Not to many cheat for no reason). Was the relationship 50/50 or even the true odds 70/30. I state it like this because no relation ship really is 50/50 all the time. It switch off.
I bring this up because we invest a lot of time in to relationships. When you don't see eye to eye..someone is gone to get curious and wonder is the grass green cause I not getting what I thought here. Some settle and deal with the situation, not a good one either, but i happens. Well why don't the tell the other person. Well maybe the still love them. Why are they cheating? See for a guy sometime emotions and sex are disconnected. The guy may still even be in love with the person with no intent of hurting them, even though the are wronging them. The cheater could be cheating for the same reason. The cheated might have promise something and came up short. When you say I am going to be with you wither it be dating or marriage, it is you responsibility to know the person you are involved with. Like the friend you wanted (Why your in a relationship, you wanted it. Act like it).
I believe that if that person is that close to you at any point you should be able to tell when they are distancing themselves from you. It is just as much a cheaters failure as the (supposedly)cheated person. Unless it was something that was taught to the person as a way of life. I have heard of mothers and father discuss this with child with no regards aside from don't tell you mother or father about this. I have heard people say that it was what help save there marriage. You have to realize that if you do not set out to learn about the person you are with. Then you are leaving the door open for the opportunity. In most cases their are early warning signs. You might have been able to avoid it even happening if you were putting in what you want to get out, with someone you took the time to know would do the same.
And if it happen earlier in the relationship then maybe you should not have put that much of yourself out there to get pooped on.

- Response by rx72fast4u, A Father Figure, Male, 29-35

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