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IS 40, 41 YEARS OLD TOO OLD TO ...
Married Life / 8:46 PM - Saturday December 23, 2006

IS 40, 41 YEARS OLD TOO OLD TO HAVE A CHILD? HOW MANY PEOPLE DO YOU KNOW HAVE HAD CHILDREN IN THEIR

IS 40, 41 YEARS OLD TOO OLD TO HAVE A CHILD? HOW MANY PEOPLE DO YOU KNOW HAVE HAD CHILDREN IN THEIR 40TY NATURALLy?

- Asked by february22, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Toronto, Who Cares?

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My friend had her 5th child naturally at 47..the odds are higher for Down's Syndrom and higher for miscarriage..

- Response by butternutbisque, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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You can have a child at that age but pretty much every year past 35 the risk goes up a little. Talk to your doctor.

- Response by draughtdrinker, A Jock, Male, 29-35, Atlanta, Medical / Dental

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My neighbor had her two sons when she was 42 and 44. So it happens.

- Response by rosekohn, A Married Girl, Female, 66 or older, Philadelphia, Retired

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I just talked to someone yesterday who was born to a 42 year old mother (he is now 44). She had three more after him. :)

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Executive

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It's too old. You'll be sixty when the kid's ready for college. Those are the years when you need to be focusing on yourself, not someone else.
My last g/f was facing having a fourth kid at 40, and she had to concede, it's just too much to put yourself through. Her first ones weren't so bad, but the third one, at about age 36, took so much out of her, she knew it was time to stop.
She wanted me to be the dad.

- Response by chesterdad, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, San Francisco

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not too old but reearch has shown that men who father children after their mid 40's have a 6x higher incidence of having a child with autism. So your partners age is also an important factor. I think what really cuts to the heart of your question is: Do you have the stamina to be a parent for the next 20 years. Kids are a handful, I have 2 daughters 18 & 13 and they keep me on my toes. It's a marathon.... but there is also no greater joy than to have a little one curl up in your lap & ask you to read them abedtime story.... And you read it so many times that they have it meomrized by age three and they think that they can read along with you. Go for it you won't regret it... Your child may find the cure for cancer, or win the Nobel peace prize.... or pitch a perfect game. the hope for humanity is in our children... All my best to you for a joyous holiday and a blessed, healthy, & bountiful 2007 jj (jerzeejeff)

- Response by jerzeejeff, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Philadelphia, Self-Employed

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I just had a baby and while doing pre-natal classes etc. I met several women having babies at 40. They were all artificially conceived however and they all had complications (minor ones). I now wonder how they deal with the energy you need to care for a young baby and if they will still have it as the baby ages.
If you put alot of thought into it and really consider everything (like how old you'll be when the child is 15) then it is possible and can be wonderful.


- Response by joni, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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YES is very old to have kids. dont be selfish if you had kids now you will be 60 when there 20. you will be 50's when there teenagers. You wont be able to do the things that parents do. I have seen kids with old damn parents an most of the time the kids are embarrassed that there parents are so old. why in the hell do you want kids now you will have at lease 20 to 30 good years left to in joy life. Do the things you never done before this is the time to in joy grand kids not your own babys.

- Response by mcqueen, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Other Profession

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It's not too old. It's actually weird to me that I'm now 40 and I'm not as old as my dad was when I was born! My dad was 43 and my mom was 40 when I was born. My dad and I had a very unique realtionship...one that my siblings didn't have. My dad was a steelworker and worked very hard (long hours and shift work) while my brothers and sisters were young. As I was getting to my later years of H/S my dad retired and I got to know him more as a man and as a friend than any of my siblings ever did.

They had more of his years I had more of his "quality" time!

Miss ya Pop!

- Response by calee, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Philadelphia, Other Profession

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