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FWB is now boyfriend?
FWB is now boyfriend? / Sex & Intimacy / 5:31 PM - Saturday February 24, 2007
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(Female, 26-28) asked:


My FWB (we've been on and off again for 6 years) has been calling me his girlfriend for a few months now. I never really formally agreed to it, but I just figured if it made him more comfortable, I'm not really seeing anyone else right now anyway...

So, I saw him yesterday and he said he is changing his myspace status to read "in a relationship". Teasing, I asked if this was for his *other* girlfriend, to which he replied "no, you of course".

I don't really want to change mine to read "in a relationship" since I am not sure I want to take myself off the market like that, for him anyway (I love him as a friend, but he's definitely not my true love in life)... I tried to explain to him that he is better off leaving "single" since he is in an up-and-coming band, and it will help with popularity with the women.

What does this all mean? What do I do?


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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Boston, 36-45, Science / Engineering) answered:

Screenname: llafsroh


You sound like an honest person. I like that. Just decide and then tell him straight up. Don't let him think something. Declare it. And if he wants he can attempt to woo your wafflin ass. Or you can stay as honest friends. But then no more knocking boots. Cause he declared feelings.

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A Creative (Female, Dallas, 29-35, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: sherocks


"What does this all mean? What do I do?"

this means that you havent been upfront and honest about your intentions with him and that he has communication issues and doesnt want to have "the talk" but wants "the benefits" and more...

you need to have "the talk" and explain to him that you do not want to be in a relationship with him and that you do not want to be considered as his gurl friend...

and i think the benefits of the friendship need to end, looks like some feelings got involved, go figure...

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A Thinker (Female, Vancouver, 26-28, Retail) answered:

Screenname: anotherhottie


It is his way of saying that he wants a relationship and if this is not what you want you need to tell him. Women complain that men are not clear - you need to be clear.

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A Creative (Female, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: leebee


You're no longer a piece of meat. He has feelings for you now. If you don't, stop being with him. Plain and simple.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: butternutbisque


It's hard to say what it means..it would be best to start communicating vs second guessing this 6 year whatever you call it...

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