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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Tampa, 22-25, Retail) asked:


I've asked this question to multiple people, and I get multiple answers. My question is, does a guy prefer a hard to get girl, or an eager girl? I consider myself hard to get, until I get to know you... then I'm an eager girl.

So guys... do you like resistance or persistance?


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A Jock (Male, Norfolk, 36-45, Military) answered:

Screenname: tomb12qb


There has to be a happy medium. If she's too hard to get, I get gone! If she's a push-over, then she comes across as desperate. It's best if she's just a normal, independent woman who can obviously live without me, but all things being equal prefers to be with me.

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A Creative (Male, Seoul, 29-35, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: oreovictim


Hard to get in what way? If a girl is hard-to-get (in bed) than I appreciate her and respect her. If she's hard-to-get on a date and acts hot/cold, then that's more like playing annoying games, and I have no respect for her. It's a bit high school. After all, a date is TWO people getting to know each other.

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A Married Girl (Female, 36-45, Retired) answered:

Screenname: msinquisitive


I've always been hard to get. I personally found that guys like the chase. They like the woman to be a bit mysterious. It keeps them interested. I have noticed that eager girls may have many men but not that special man. I would take QUALITY over Quantity anyday.

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A Father Figure (Male, Ottawa, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: falconf1


My wife claimed she played a little hard to get...

Of all my GFs, most were eager, and most worked well. Those that were trully hard to get, were usually too hard and I just said screw it.

But with my wife, I never noticed her playing hard to get, I guess it didn't matter since I decided she was going to be mine no matter what.

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A Sportif (Female, 36-45, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: broncochick


Im thinking after what I witnessed last night and the "not so easy gal role that I played...im eager to learn as well."

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Houston, 22-25, Technical) answered:

Screenname: mritguy


I don't mind working a little bit, but if a girl starts playing hard-to-get I'll probably just stop calling her completely. I just cant tell the difference between hard-to-get, and complete disinterest.

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A Father Figure (Male, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: curadvent


When I was single, I never spent anytime with the hard to get girls. There were far too many easy to get girls to have fun with.

Life's to short to play games.

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A Creative (Male, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: hands


In past experience persistance worked for me.

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A Creative (Male, 29-35, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: yos_


Hard to get. For sure.

The thrill of the chase is important. No chase = no thrill, for me at least.

Perhaps this is why I fall in love with unavailable women whilst the ones that like me I don't fall for? Oh well.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: romeyblack


You will get all kinds of answers, most men will say easy so they can get you easy. Just remember easy come, easy go!!!
However, think about it logically, Men are love the chase, they like it hard, infact they like for it to stay hard all the time(can you guess what I am talking about here) SO if you keep it hard they will stick around. Don't make it to easy otherwise the fun is over for the Guy.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Executive) answered:

Screenname: elsiemax


You and both know that guys --- and girls for that matter -- respect most potential partners who don't play games. They don't play coy, tomboy, player or much else. When you're getting to know someone you don't have to play anything at all: who knows if you're ever gonig to want to date or not? That's what getting to know them is for. But I'm repeating things I'm sure you know.
Sounds to me like you are probably being yourself with them which is the most charming. If you are a bit "hard to get" initially, that would probably help them realize you aren't someone who fools around with everyone.
So I'd say be yourself, enjoy yourself, and remember that at your age you want to go out with and get to know as many men as possible so that when you feel the time is right to settle down you're prepared to be monogomous forever.




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A Thinker (Female, 29-35, Teaching) answered:


Its all about the chase. Once you're caught its not as much fun.

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