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When you break up with someone are you suppose to give back the jewelry they gave you? Like maybe a

When you break up with someone are you suppose to give back the jewelry they gave you? Like maybe a necklace or a promise ring?

- Asked by greeneyed26, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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Yeah.

- Response by livestrong23, A Player, Male, 22-25, Fitness

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I think it varies from relationship to relatiuonship, but he gave them to you and he probably has no use for them anyways. If they are valuable and you sell them, I think he is entitled to the cash.

- Response by atvman400, A Rebel, Male, 22-25, Detroit, Science / Engineering

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I don't think so :-S I wouldn't ask for my gifts back..wtf
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lol

- Response by loveisintheair, A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, Other Profession

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Not Necessarily.....

It was a GIFT to you...however, if you don't want it, take it to your jeweler and have them melt it all down and make something you would like...


A Gift is a Gift Luv.........tis yours to keep !!!!!



~wolfie

- Response by wolfspirit, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, Self-Employed

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Necklace NO, promise ring Yes, Engagement ring for sure.

- Response by dambreaker, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, Retired

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Not a chance.........you can always pawn it if you're that pissed off at him.

- Response by moehoward, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Construction

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If it's expensive, then yeah it'd be the polite thing to do. If it's not that costly then I don't think he'd care either way.

My ex never gave me back an expensive necklace I gave her for Christmas (and she dumped me around that time too), but then again she's a selfish, lying, cruel, cold and cheating bitch so I wouldn't expect a piece of crap like her to do the right thing anyway.

Don't be like her ;)

- Response by vapo, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Dublin, Other Profession

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nope. it was a gift, that means it no longer belongs to the giver, but to the receiver. just like if you bought him some Xbox games as a present, you don't get them back.

(engagement rings are a whole different story, but otherwise, gifts are yours).


- Response by canary, A Creative, Female, 29-35

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I think it is your decision. If keeping those things around is bothersome, I'd get rid of them. A gift is a gift... unless it's an engagement ring, that should be returned as it would be a conditional gift.

- Response by lissa78, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35

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I gave it all back. Cards, notes, and pissed on the pictures after I burned them. I was a little upset. :)

- Response by vabyss, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Who Cares?

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Technically they are considered gifts, so no, you don't have to, but it's totally up to you.

- Response by rexy67, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, St.Louis, Retail

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not unless it was a family piece of he is still paying on it (like an engagement ring). Otherwise no. I tried to give my ex his promise ring back and he was like, nah, I bought that for you, keep it. I did and ended up swapping with my sister for a ring her ex husband bought her, neither or us felt right about wearing the pieces but swapping took all the sentimental parts away! Me and a friend swapped neckalces ex's had given us and then I gave one to my little niece so her mom can decide if she's responsible enough to wear "real" jewelry.

- Response by karismatic1, A Married Girl, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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yes, I would recommend giving it back, no matter what it was because keeping it would remind you of him, especially something like a promise ring.

- Response by jdthedj, A Guy Critical, Male, 22-25, Who Cares?

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No, they were gifts at the time. I wouldn't want any gift back that I gave to him. What am I going to do with them, besides maybe sell them on eBay.

- Response by givinggirl, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Chicago, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Most women don't......if the guy broke it off, but if YOU break it off, the promise ring or engagement ring should be given back!
That is it though!

Have a good one!

- Response by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 36-45, Dallas, Executive

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There are 2 sides to that one. According to the Law (courts) they were given as gifts or promise gifts. He/She is not reponsible to return them.

I agree with keeping the gifts, but I think if a couple gets divorced, the women keeps the engagement ring and the man should get both wedding bands. this way if he wants to sell them or something, he's not totally getting screwed on the jewelry thing.

- Response by davevw, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Newark, Technical

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not unless it is an engagement ring, but if you got married then you dont even have to give that back.
i kept a tiffany's bracelet, a ring, and a necklace from a previous long term relationship, and he didnt ask for it back.
and i would never ask for anything like that back if i gave it as a gift

- Response by soseductive84, A Player, Female, 22-25, New York, Student

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depends on who did the breaking up

- Response by something, A Jock, Male, 29-35, Atlanta, Other Profession

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Yes,the ring or a significant jewelery they gave you,cuz it signifies that "it's over".:)

- Response by janlim, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Singapore, Student

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It's tacky for the giver to ask to get them back.

It's up for the reciever wether to give them back or not.

- Response by troublemaker, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 26-28, Administrative

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I don't think you should have to they were gifts he felt you deserve them at the time ,you should still deserve them now

- Response by boxofchocolates, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Dallas, Medical / Dental

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no only engagment rings

- Response by luvbuck, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Frankfurt, Political / Government

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if it is just regular jewelry no its yours as a gift if its a promise ring or engagement ring and you did the break up then you return that but if he breaks up its all yours

- Response by hippieguy, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, New York, Technical

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The ONLY thing you should give back (which really isn't a true gift) is an engagement ring. The ring is a symbol of a future contract/bond/covanant that was not fullfilled.

Outside of that a gift is a gift. Keep it ....

|| DK ||

- Response by ddkk, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Philadelphia, Political / Government

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If it is a family heirloom, definitely, or an engagement/promise ring.
Otherwise your choice.

- Response by jjcabin, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Technical

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Only the engagement ring.Its not just the fact that they are extremely expensive but its psychological.No point in the girl keeping it.Everything else within reason is fine.

- Response by seagalfan, A Career Man, Male, 26-28, Dublin, Financial / Banking

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I had a really nice necklace given to me, i broke up with the guy, I offered it back to him, but he said i could keep it, because it was gift to me!!!
I'd personally offer jewelry back, and see what he'd say....but if it was a engagement ring i would definitly give it back!

but What would make u feel more comfortable inside??? keep it or give it back??? go with what puts you at peace!!!

- Response by grapejuice, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

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a gift is a gift is a gift is a gift

so no

the only thing you give back are family heirlooms and/or an engagement ring where the marriage did not happen

:o)

- Response by anonymouse32, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?

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NO, its a gift

- Response by glamscents, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45, Toronto, Other Profession

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When I give a gift, it is because I want someone to have the gift. What the recipient does with it after that is their own business. I would not ask for anything back. In the case of a personal piece of jewelry (e.g. engagement ring), what would I want with it? Resale value is limited, and I would never consider giving it to another woman.

- Response by zbuck1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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The only time I have ever given something back was when I either had no use for it or when he asked for it back, I have offerred to give things back but was told that if they were given to me, then I should keep them...if you feel that he may want these things back, as him and if he doesn't, you can just put them away and keep them someplace safe...:)

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Student

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Not really....but if it reminds you of him and the relationship went bad, and you feel sick about having it...dump the jewelry or sell it.

- Response by truth2betold, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, New York, Internet / New Media

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I so want that gold necklace back...my mom gave it to me and I passed it on to this B*&**.

- Response by indianguy, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 26-28, Detroit, Consulting

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