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There is some girl at work who ...
Career / 11:35 PM - Thursday May 31, 2007

There is some girl at work who insults
me, acts like she is "all that", acts
like she is so popula

There is some girl at work who insults
me, acts like she is "all that", acts
like she is so popular- and yet the truth
is that this single mom is a loser and she
doesn't even realize it . I try to avoid
confronting her and telling her off and what I
really think of her- which would really piss
her off - and then she would try to
get other stooges she knows to support her as well.

It's not really a thing to complain because that
won't do any good but make me look like a winer.

Is the best thing NOt to exchange words with her
and just ignore her. Or should I exchange
words back and let her know how much of a loser
she really is and that she is so stupid to
even realize it or should I exchange
words back and criticize her back and give her
a dose of her own medicine ?

- Asked by A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55

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People dont care what you think unless they think you care...so you would only be wasting your time...those who are criticized learn to criticize, so obviously she already has had this in her life...and has gotten to the point where she affects others with her hurt....like YOU.

See how you are wanting to do the same thing to her you are complaining about?
She may not even know how she is negatively impacting those around her.
Do yourself a favor and let go...stop the domino effect and do the opposite...find something about her you DO like and concentrate on that.

Soon you will begin to see her in a different light...when you do...share that with her..treat her as the loving person she has the potential to be and then sit back and watch her change.
In the end...only love has the power to change people.


- Response by lazvegzchk, A Hippie Chick, Female, Who Cares?, Las Vegas, Therapist

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If you want to get even with her, just ignore her. You will either be doing her a big favor, of lunging the dagger with a twist at the end. Either way it's her decision.

And cool it with the single mom is a loser thing. I have all the respect in the world for single moms.

- Response by chi1978, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I agree with lazvegzchk,
however my other thought on this is:
Be the better person. Treat her in a polite professional manor. Don't let her get to you nor provoke you. As long as you know that what she's saying about you is not true, that is important.
It might just be that there're more people then you think that share your point of view. People dig the whole that they will eventually fall into all by themselves. One day she will realize all on her own that she's been making a fool out of herself.

- Response by 123runlola, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, New York, Hospitality

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