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Falling out of Love? What are the signs?
Married Life / 10:14 PM - Tuesday December 11, 2007

Falling out of Love? What are the signs?

Okay Ladies... dish it. What do you do when you feel like you're fall out of love with your husband, boyfrield or significant other. Tell me in detail... do you start to "not want the sex", go out more often etc....

AND MEN, if you're reading this... what happens when the sex starts to die down.... etc..

*Please note: I am researching and writing a book. All your thoughts would be very much appreciated.

- Asked by A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Executive

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I believe that 'being in love' is essentially infatuation. There's no 'love' about it. It's basically stirred up emotions and looking through rose-colored glasses. Once the rose-tint wears off you begin to see the person's faults and failings and those things, rather than being endearing, annoy, anger, frustrate, infuriate, bore, disgust you. That's the first sign. You begin to wonder what you ever saw in this person. That's the second sign. Then I think it depends on the person....some cut bait immediately, some hang out for awhile wondering how they'll get out of this situation, gradually withdrawing until they eventually leave, and then there are some who are in it for the long haul, withdrawing but never leaving.

I tended to be the first type. At the first sign that the rose-tint was wearing off, I was out, but that's in the past. Fortunately for me I was never 'in love' with my husband. From the start it was pure love, deep and quiet and beautiful. Sure he has flaws as do I, but they are endearing, not annoying to the other and we accept each other for who we are. I don't envy people who are in love, because if you can fall 'in love' then you can fall out---and most likely you will.

- Response by 1wonderfullife, A Married Girl, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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For me, it started with me losing respect for him. Evemtually, I lost all feelings of love for him.
If I can't respect someone, I can't love him let alone have sex with him.

- Response by chchia, A Married Girl, Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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When in love, other guys don't even exist and all I want to do is spend my free time cuddling and talking, kissing, not being able to sleep withoput him. and having sex.
Falling out of love, I notice other guys everywhere, I have only have sex to avoid an argument about it, I can only fall asleep when he's in the other room, it feels wrong kissing him.
When the only thing keeping us together is our daughter

I know he's not in love anymore because he always looks mad, he pushes me off when I try to kiss him, he doesn't say he loves me, he doesn't do the little things anymore, i.e. tickle scratch me, crack my toes, but me little things bc he knows I would like them, blames everything on me. Yells, cusses. changes.

- Response by hiroshimahoodrat, A Hippie Chick, Female, 26-28, Tampa, Who Cares?

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I withdraw in general - conversation, doing things together, conversing - all dwindles. The sex happens less and less until I sit him down to talk.

And if you're whom I think you are, I miss you!!!!

- Response by sakura1, A Player, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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We should never have "fallen" in love in the first place...we should have walked into it with eyes wide open and minds open as well. All of the time, it's not just love that we are dealing with. Sometimes it's depression, sometimes stress, a lot of the "falling out of love symptoms" come from lack of communication...the "he/she probably feels like..." thoughts. If you want to write, I have some good points for you. Feel free to write me back.

- Response by babs6407, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Administrative

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can lost of interest be the sign of falling out of love?we started trusting each other then he began to be jealous a lot of times without a proof or a reason,I took it as sign of love for me but it became a common issue for an argument.I decided to be quiet and stop debating with him then he became irresponsible he started leaving me all the obligations.I take it as his weaknesses so i let things the way it was.I keep on understanding him but one day I woke up I'm fed up already and want to stop everything.I felt numb.I'm really confused If i still Love him or not.please help me....

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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