An Alternative Girl (Female, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Easy.

Playing hard to get is a pretense, an illusion typically used in the attempt to trick or manipulate a potential romantic partner into giving a desired response. However, "the truth will out", as they say. It can be very difficult to sustain a lie over a long period of time -- and at least as often as not, people end up giving themselves away by some means or other. Manipulation is also not especially fair to the other person, since it's an attempt to make that person do what you want without respecting their own feelings in the matter -- and it's bad karma to boot, since it invites whatever energies which you put out into the world to be visited upon you later.

In contrast, I think being hard to get is simply a matter of having the self-esteem and the self-respect to require that a man prove himself worthy of you and capable of measuring up to your standards, whatever those may happen to be. It shows that you care about yourself and that you're not simply willing to settle for any man who happens to give you the time of day. It's not a deception, nor do I see it an attempt to force someone into giving you what you want regardless of their own interests -- merely an opportunity for anyone who wishes to spend time with you to decide whether or not the effort of meeting your requirements is worth their while. For some men, it won't be -- for others, it will, and that's their decision to make.

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A Rebel (Male, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

big difference, players, x off the list.
now someone that is hard to get for whatever reason, a challange worth fighting. may be a woman off a bad relationship swearing she will never date again and she is a hot, keeper, i would work on that.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 46-55, Political / Government) answered:

Perhaps nobody wants her.....:P

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, New Orleans, Who Cares?, Science / Engineering) answered:

i really want to give this a good answer....will hold your hand on the first date..and wont hold your hand for quite some time...its the cleanest way to explain....or sets the bar 5 feet off the ground..or sets the bar 12 feet off the ground.

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