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Sex & Intimacy / 12:43 PM - Wednesday April 16, 2008

stop im going to cum !

Last night I was giving my boyfriend oral and he was enjoying it and then pulled back and said "see I almost just came there, that's not good that was like 2 minutes!" and he got all pissed off about it, like, it was a horrible thing.
I said "that just means your turned on alot, that's not a bad thing at all"
and he pulled the blanket on him and was frustrated. I asked him"so what, you don't want me to touch you at all right now?" and he said 'no"
well, I didn't listen and I started kissing him and his neck and then he was turned on still obviously, so I started at it again, and then he was giving me oral too, and then we had sex and it was awesome.

and then today he texted me that he was hard right then because he was thinking about last night. and wants to do it again tonight. sounds good to me.

I think that he almost came so quickly because I just got finished w/my period and we hadn't had sex during that time, so he was extra horny and he hadn't gotten any attention in that category because of it-so that's why he almost blew his load pretty quickly. if your not getting it for alittle while and then you get it, you'll go more quickly than if you had gotten it every day right?

he was just so frustrated w/himself. do any of you guys have any pointers or advice about this? what can i say to him that will make him feel better? I think when he is feelign like that I just need to stop oral for a minute or two and start kissing other spots on him and then go back to his man hood, little teasing and pleasing, right?

thoughts/opinions please.

- Asked by distressedchick, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Boston, Managerial

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i don't know what to tell you. I mean I can appreciate him wanting to last to have a good long session with you, but he's also gotta understand that some times girls enjoy the ego boost of being able to make their guys finish quickly. Maybe explain it to him that way.

- Response by yaddayaddayadda, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Charlotte, Technical

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We get it you can suck a good dick...Thanks for the 411.

- Response by gopgirl, An Alternative Girl, Female, 66 or older, Who Cares?

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That is how it works ( and always has) for us. If we did it every day, it wasn't as intense after a while. But if we obstained for several days, it was much more intense and didn't take as long. Sounds logical to me!!

- Response by goldenoldie, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Self-Employed

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This is a man we're talking about, right?

I have never heard of a man getting frustrated because oral is too good. If a woman can make me climax from it she is in an exclusive group. Why on Earth would this frustrate him?

- Response by comfortillusion, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35

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What happened was totaly natural! I'm not sure why re reacted that way, but obviosly you were doing a really good number on him. I'm glad he quit his pity party, and realized what a great thing he had going with you ;) Dan

- Response by palamino, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Charlotte, Law Enforcement

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Tell him that it could be worse...it could be that he takes a LONG time to cum orally and you get tired and have to stop with your neck hurting.....that is my dilemma!!! Tell him you want to suck the first one out then he can go down on you then you can BOTH f*ck the second one off together!

Have a good one and good luck!

- Response by kanaka, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Executive

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u making him orgasm shouldn't be the end of your episode.u being able to make him cum orally is alot of mens dream.he got frustrated because he didn't feel in control.if u had made him cum from oral that would have been or should have been the prelude to some mindblowing sex.
most men when they cum the first time r harder and more hungry when u all have the second episode....sex doesn't and shouldn't just happen one time.
yeah when u don't give it to them when u r on your cycle it does make them more hungry.
his frustration has to do with lossing control...so what u haveto do is make him know or feel that if he loses it he is still the man that u think he is.

- Response by phenomenal1woman, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Chicago

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Just because a man orgasms that does not mean his fun is over for the night.

It is true that the more excited we are or the longer it's been since the last time, we tend to orgasm more quickly. There are tricks that can be done to help prolong this. but I feel they are more trouble than they are worth.

It's okay to let him cum quickly. You may even want him to cum first. He will go soft afterwards and even get a little drowsy. They are all physical/chemical reactions men get after ejaculation and not much can be done about that. There is what is called the recovery period. So he's goes soft, keep stimulating him. Hug, kiss and continue with foreplay. In about 10 to 30 minutes he'll get hard again and ready for action.

It is this second erection that you both will like. It will last much longer before he orgasms again. You could even try a third or forth time if you both have the stamina for it. Each time will have less ejaculate but that's okay. It's the orgasm you'er after.

Explain this all to him and that you want to try to make him cum twice or maybe three times this way.

Good luck and enjoy.

- Response by cosmicdog0, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Denver, Science / Engineering

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depending on the blowjob technique, i can go for a while of be done in 2 minutes.....my wife can make me cum in no time flat....but shes good at it and knows exactly what to do.....when she wants me to last, she knows how to hold me off....she slows down, used less hand, looser grip...i dont know...something!....ye s, if you havent had it in a while, you might shoot quicker too.....to me, that isnt a problem. if i get off real fast from oral or anything else, that just means im going to get ready to start again....i love going for the second round....and the second time around, i will last a lot longer....now if i could only get my wife to participate....

- Response by A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Retired

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Well, I am certainly enveous. But yes, if you are not getting anything for a while, and suddenly a gorgeous woman starts sucking on your penis, things can happen pretty quickly. Even if you don't want them too. The erotic image is just too much, not to even talk about how it feels.

which brings up another point. You might just be just great at giving head. You know his penis, you know how to make your mouth do what he likes, and you may be able to make him blow very quickly. This is not a bad thing.

So, you need to tell him not to worry. And what is wrong with shooting it into your mouth. He maybe just needs to know, that if he goes off to fast, you don't mind, you will keep working on him, and soon I think he will return to useful for you, and now since he has not be away from it for a while, he will last as long as you want.

But he should not be frustrated with himself. It just happens.


- Response by welloone, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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Well, I am certainly enveous. But yes, if you are not getting anything for a while, and suddenly a gorgeous woman starts sucking on your penis, things can happen pretty quickly. Even if you don't want them too. The erotic image is just too much, not to even talk about how it feels.

which brings up another point. You might just be just great at giving head. You know his penis, you know how to make your mouth do what he likes, and you may be able to make him blow very quickly. This is not a bad thing.

So, you need to tell him not to worry. And what is wrong with shooting it into your mouth. He maybe just needs to know, that if he goes off to fast, you don't mind, you will keep working on him, and soon I think he will return to useful for you, and now since he has not be away from it for a while, he will last as long as you want.

But he should not be frustrated with himself. It just happens.


- Response by welloone, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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Well first off I think that happens 2 a lot of guys sometimes..doesn't make them a one minute or two minute man like your bouyfriend may think..sometimes it just happen..and it depends on how much he is turned on and how much u r stimulating his penis..I know sometimes when im doing my fiance it may take forever for him to bust when im not doing much,but when im really into it he bust in like 2 to 3 minutes..sometimes just the sight or thought of what u r giving him may send him over the top..and like u said sometimes when its been a while he may be more exixcted than usual..like after my menses went off recently I was doing oral on my fiance and he bust quckly..even when we had sex right after he didn't get a chance 2 pull out before he bust inside me but it happened so fast.but later that day when we did it,he lasted waaaay longer like he normally do..so I would just tell ur boyfriend that it happens to a lot of guys sometimes..and when ur gining him oral stop sometimes and do other things to delay him from cuming.and then continue..it may make him feel better because it took him longer to cum and also make his orgasm more intense...

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Philadelphia, Fashion

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Did you just want to talk about sucking dick or what?

- Response by bikerchick1, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Atlanta, Financial / Banking

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Can we have a little more detail on this pointles post?

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