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The teens are alone.
The teens are alone. / Family & Parenting / 6:14 PM - Friday April 18, 2008
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Parents of teens...Do you have a problem with letting your teens spend the night at another teens house when no parent will be home all night? This is two streets over and we live in a quiet neighborhood. Actually, I just found out that this girl has a 20 year old sister who will be there later, but I know how I was when I was 20; I may have felt mature, but I was certainly no motherly type!. My girls think I am SO strick, but I have no idea what is going on without adult supervision! This Dad is on guard duty for the night, and it's common for him to leave her while he's out. Is this common now a days?

Update: April 18, 2008.
Thanks parents for letting me know there are still parents out there who feel like we need to clamp down on our teens. It's not about depriving them of fun; in fact, I have allowed them to stay until 11:00, which I think is more than fair.


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A Career Woman (Female, Phoenix, 46-55, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: luvableangel


I think it is terrible to leave teens home alone all night. A 20 year old is not very good supervision either.
If people (boys, etc) find out the girls are staying alone... a lot of things can start to happen.
Unfortunately I knew a 15 year old that was murdered while staying overnight with a 4 year old. Nothing can change that Mother's decision to let her daughter spend the night again. :-(

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A Thinker (Female, Salt Lake City, 46-55, Managerial) answered:

Screenname: utahmom


No, I would NOT let my teen stay at another teen's house when no parent will be home.

I would offer to have that teen sleep over at MY house.

I used to embarrass my sons something terrible because I would actually call the parents and verify they would be home.

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A Sportif (Female, San Francisco, 46-55, Home Maker) answered:

Screenname: hulagirl55


Definitely, I want to know where the parents are if it's a sleepover and my teen thinks that I'm overly protective. I think it is fair that you are letting them stay until 11 but I would never leave the teens at a sleepover where there are no parents supervising. That is asking for trouble.

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A Life of the Party (Male, 26-28) answered:

Screenname: sixf33tunder


as someone who is not that far beyond my teens at least i like to think that my mom wudnt let me stay home alone till i was 18 and she wud never let me out on my own (no parent situation) for an overnite stay, looking back i feel like i lost out, i wanted to go out and party and drink never drugs but just have a good time with friends, when i did i never drank and drove, but i really wish i had been able to do more of that but my mom held me back from doing so. i relize that as a parent you dont want your kid doing so and being that i aint a dad i am prolli looking at this totally rong but my feeling is that if you just let your kid know that just tell u where she is and dont do anything stupid such as drugs drinking&driving or getting in the car wit sum1 like that let her go off and do her thing and feel good that you know where she is and that she is safe. again i know i am prolli taking this in the totally rong perspective me not being a parent so feel free to tell me i dont know wtf im talking about and to never answer a ? like this again lol

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A Cool Mom (Female, Los Angeles, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

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Generally - no. I think you ask for trouble when among friends. But- I would let my child stay home alone, or with her siblings- (I have 2 off at college, and 2 home- girls age 17 and 13). I let them stay alone, for the weekend too if I go away. They are very good kids, we have a close neighborhood- and I trust them completely. I have never had any problems.
Would I let them have a bunch of friends over if I am away- No. I don't think other parents would want that either.
My S/O's daughter has 2 friends that have stayed at her house- from Friday after school until very late on Sunday. They did this for 3.5 years straight- and there would be no supervision....
I didn't think that was a good idea-

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