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Single Mom trap!!
Dating / 12:47 PM - Monday May 05, 2008

Single Mom trap!!

Ok..does anyone else feel that dating single moms is pointless, I mean If your a single successful guy, Why would you want to date a chic that already has kids..with all the hot single chic's
with no kids available..it makes no sense to date or even worse.. get married, with a single mom, what good can come out of this. I would encourage guys that have something going on with there,lives to not get involved with these single moms..I leads nowhere!!

- Asked by A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Los Angeles, Managerial

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I'm with you bro... Who needs it! Its a pain in the ass that I don't need! Rock On with the chicks with no kids... Yeah they are usually a great piece of ass, but the chicks with no kids are better

- Response by A Jock, Male, 36-45, Retired

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It is not a surprise that so many women responded negatively to this, but I am disappointed that they get negative about it.

I have dated single moms in the past, but it is definitely different. I think that most guys who do have something going on will avoid single moms, and unfortunatley that leaves them with less attractive options. Everyone knows this.

Unfortunatley it is not always their fault, but all too often it is and so it's like one gets what one deserves.


- Response by strongnrelaxed, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, New York, Administrative

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LOL! To each his own. I'm a single mom who has never had a problem with men wanting me. Of course it leads somewhere, as any relationship would. Your "hot chics" comment just leads me to believe that you, like many your age, are a child in man's clothing. Thankfully, there is a veritable plethera of grown men that have no problem at all dating single moms.

By the way, at your age most women that want children have had them already. If you choose to remain alone, into your 30s and beyond due to that reasoning, that is your problem. But, if you honestly expect real men to believe that a woman is a waste of time simply because she has children, you really need to wake up.

- Response by southjerseygirl, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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Well, it makes sense if all people were exactly alike but they are not. Some men may be much less shallow and decide that they want a woman capable of caring about more than herself. She has already proven she is fertile. It sounds to me like you spend way too much time reading pointers on askmen.com

- Response by keldog4511, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Philadelphia, Managerial

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Well, in that case the same thing goes for women dating men who have kids from previous relationship. I mean, I dated a divorced guy a while back with two kids from his previous marriage. He paid a ridiculous amount of money to his ex-wife every month and never seemed to have enough money for himself. And then there is the time he needs to put into raising the kids he already has. So same thing really.

Of course if you really love someone then nothing will keep you from that person. Everyone has some kind of "baggage" and nobody is perfect. But if you prefer dating chicks without kids then by all means do that. Ideally, I would prefer dating a man without children since I don't have any of my own yet. But it wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker.

- Response by silver75, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, San Diego, Other Profession

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How dare u make a comment like that!! What is wrong with being a single mom. I brought up 2 son's on my own..Ur problem is that ur an idiot & u probably couldn't handle women like us.
God Forbid ,u happen to meet a single mom & fall in love...OMG, what will u do?????
We are the same as any other women out there, with just alittle more knowledge..
If u weren't such a moron u would know that it could lead to places u never dreamt of....DUH.............. ......

- Response by spitfire815, A Hippie Chick, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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It could be some truth to what you are saying, I am a single mom of twin boys who are 16 and I am 35...I pretty much waited for them to get older before venturing out again...I must say my sons are wonderful and off the hook as well but they are praying for me to get a husband...They are tired of rubbing my back and feet...lol Keep this in mind I am also a business owner who's in school with no family...I lost my mom, brother to death. I am very involved in my church as well as the boys...I don't play guys to get money I pay my own way....So sweetie there are some single moms out there worth checking out....Best wishes

- Response by nikkijai, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Cincinnati, Who Cares?

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Dating a single mother IS pointless if you'd rather not develop that sort of family dynamic (goes without saying it’s your prerogative)

However, with the divorce rate as high as it is in this country, failed relationships, women being widowed, etc. many people do date single parents and those situations often lead to new loves and merged families.

- Response by surrealoptimism, A Creative, Female, 29-35

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Wow...sounds like you may not want to date a single mom, and thast's fine but quite frankly you can't help who you fall in love with...I just became a single mom after being married for a long time and have a 13 year old. I am asked out at least twice a day and I am really particular about who I date because I am responsible for someone else. Good people are hard to find no matter if they are single moms or not, and that may be your opinion but trust me guys of ALL ages don't feel the same way you do...good luck to you

- Response by designforyou, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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funnny you say that.
I've been dating a very succesful business man for 3 years. All of those years I might add, I have been a single mother.
We're not all cut from the same cloth.
A bad experience with one doesn't mean that all will turn out the same way.
I might as well say not to date the "rebel" in the wife beater and tattoos, they are all insensitive jerks. It will lead no where, and they are all the same.
Not quite fair is it?

- Response by leebee, A Creative, Female, 26-28, Other Profession

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That's fine- I prefer to date single or widowed Men myself. They are less selfish, know what it's like to love another as much or more then you love yourself. I don't want to ever be involved with single guys who have no concept what a real, mature relationship and commitment is. I am a widow with 4 wonderful kids. I was married for over 20 years, and miss my late husband. I'm still a 'hot babe', and have numerous men wanting and hoping to date me and would like to marry me, but I have my S/O- and I'm happy.
He's a widower/ single Dad too....
Stay away from single mother's, you don't deserve the gifts they can bring to a relationship...

- Response by momharleyxl, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Self-Employed

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If you don't like single moms then dont date them, my stepfather dated my mom although he was succesfull with no kids, and I should think he enjoyed the outcome.
No Im not a single mom, and reading your post sure makes me happy that Im not one, although due to your post I wouldn't date you anyway.

- Response by misssparkle, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Military

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