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Single Mom trap!!
Dating / 2:07 AM - Friday May 09, 2008

Single Mom trap!!

Ok..does anyone else feel that dating single moms is pointless, I mean If your a single successful guy, Why would you want to date a chic that already has kids..with all the hot single chic's
<br />with no kids available..it makes no sense to date or even worse.. get married, with a single mom, what good can come out of this. I would encourage guys that have something going on with there,lives to not get involved with these single moms..I leads nowhere!!

Update: May 09, 2008.
I reposted this message because this guy sent this to me. Sorry for the mix up but I think it's pointless as well as many of a have agreed that it does not matter!!! Thanks for responding...

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Cincinnati, Who Cares?

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woah hold on, I dated a whole bunch of single moms. I didn't have to marry them. But this was in college and during that time, they need to have some fun too. And yeah, I don't see my self getting married to one. But the sex was great with all. and they were cool too.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Celebrity

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So who are you, a single woman without children who can't get a date, or a single mother who is trying to get rid of a lazy boyfriend...

- Response by buffer, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Who Cares?

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WOW YOUR KINDA STUPID...

- Response by j3s5e, A Rebel, Male, 26-28, Retired

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Most youg single childless men won't but,

Young men that may have their own child (with them or without them) would,

Older men - THERE AIN'T No CHOICE - They all gotem!!! so it is go with or go WITHOUT a woman!!!!!!!!

- Response by rafiki910, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Boston, Body Work

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It shouldn't matter who you date if you are just having fun. To point the finger at one specific set of woman is not fair. You sould like a self centered person that think only your children would be worthy of you being their father or step father. You may change your tone if you are unable to have your own children.

- Response by barbb, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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..You got that right..lol

..Just to many women without kid's to be messing with one's that do...lol

- Response by mauddeep, An Intellectual Guy, Male, Who Cares?, New York, Science / Engineering

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What about the single guys with kids???
I think we pair up quite well myself.
I am a widow with kids and I have had NO PROBLEM dating single guys with and without kids, some have never been married and some have. Some are widowers- others divorced-
I prefer the ones with kids and I have many guys tell me the same. We are much less self absorbed and selfish then those without kids. We have our priorities in order, know how to share, and respect other's and are not all consumed with only the S/O- we have our own lives, needs, abilities and responsibilities. Less of a ME, ME mentality!!!

- Response by momharleyxl, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Self-Employed

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i dont think that dating single moms is pointless. Just because someone has kids doesnt mean that they are lepers.

- Response by gergie666, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25, Atlanta, Home Maker

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No kids and can't find a date? Still, that's a rather shallow way of thinking.

- Response by jezmebaby, A Hippie Chick, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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Err, I'm afraid I don't share your opinion. My stepfather has two biological sons from two previous marriages, but he married my mom when she already had me and my brother.
From his 4 kids, I am his favorite.
I think its about time people stop considering children as a bother, my stepdad loves me and my brother more than anything, and my mom too.

- Response by richy26, A Creative, Female, 18-21, Student

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From what I know and hear from guys, there are some advantages to dating Single Moms:
1. Less selfish and self-centered
2. More responsible than those without kids
3. More caring and empathetic about the world in general
4. More aware of whats happening in the world as a result (aka-more wisdom than those without a child)
5. More willing to be giving and generous
6. Know how to navigate the tougher times in a relationship without falling apart or running away

See there are some things more important to some guys than the inconvenience factor. There are lots of qualities we develop in being a Parent that childless people don't have as readily. Plus some guys like Kids (newsflash). As long as the Mother handles her life properly and does not have a bunch of drama associated with her lifestyle or trying to make each guy the childs pseudo-Father, whats the big deal? I know I've never had a problem.

- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?

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I see now ur going on as a woman...How pathetic are u???
There are still men out there & accepts another mans child if they love the mother..How could u not!!! It could lead somewhere if u'd allow it.... Ur still an IDIOT!!! GROW UP!

- Response by spitfire815, A Hippie Chick, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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i wouldnt do it, but maybe if i was older. not sure. i wanna make my own kids, not manage someone elses. just being honest.

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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Yes, news flash!! Some single guys do like single moms. I am a mom of 5 and he's a dad of 3, 2 from 1st marriage and 1 from his 2nd. Together, we are terrific. He's so intune with me. We share the responsibilities and we both work full time. He definitely understands the day to day stress of raising children these days. And we back each other up 100% when it comes to disciplining and parenting all the kids. I was afraid to be a single, divorced mom until I started a relationship with him. Now I know that I can do anything as long as he's there for support. :)

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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I wouldn't feel that its pointless. Why would you just discount a woman because she has kids? She has done the most wonderful thing that any woman can do which is to give birth.

- Response by tnix123, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, New York, Managerial

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Last time you posted this exact same paragraph, you were a guy.

- Response by keldog4511, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Philadelphia, Managerial

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We have good memories around here...This exact same post was up on May 5, but then you were posing as a man 29-35 year old man from Los Angeles. Why do you feel the need to press this issue? Why pose a woman now? If you don't want to date single moms then don't. But why try to discourage good men from dating these women? Single moms need love too you know!

- Response by silver75, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, San Diego, Other Profession

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At least you know she puts out...

- Response by atvman400, A Rebel, Male, 22-25, Detroit, Science / Engineering

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