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Secret to happy marriage
secret to happy marriage / Married Life / 10:09 AM - Wednesday August 06, 2008
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A Hippie Chick (Female, New York, 29-35, Teaching) asked:


What is the secret to a happy marriage?


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A Sportif (Female, Dallas, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

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I have found Xanax works well!!

seriously....you have to like the person you are with in addition to loving them....really enjoy their company

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A Life of the Party (Female, Atlanta, 29-35, Other Profession) answered:

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I asked my grandfather this once and he said to make sure that neither of you fall out of love at the same time.

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A Guy Critical (Male, St.Louis, 46-55, Administrative) answered:

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stay single.
it is better for tax purposes.

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A Married Girl (Female, 36-45, Home Maker) answered:

Screenname: dolphace


Laughter and lots of sex!

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A Thinker (Female, Chicago, 46-55, Administrative) answered:

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Trust, honesty and mutual respect. Great sex helps...lol

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A Player (Female, Philadelphia, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: dana1148


Stay Single ;o)



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A Life of the Party (Male, 56-65, Who Cares?) answered:

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It's so secret that eveyone who knew what it was had to be killed. The secret has now been lost forever.

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A Rebel (Male, Phoenix, 36-45, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: dawsonmckay


Being lucky enough to marry the person you first called your best friend.

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A Guy Critical (Male, 56-65, Technical) answered:

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My Dad told me that a person should keep both eyes open when looking for a spouse...and one of them closed after finding one.

I thing this is one key element.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession) answered:

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Honesty, trust, communication, respect!

Lady W*


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A Trendsetter (Female, Pittsburgh, 29-35, Administrative) answered:

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1) Communication
2) Care
3) Compromise

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Indianapolis, 36-45, Political / Government) answered:

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love, acceptance, support, and communication. With these four you should be able to address anything else

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 46-55, Lawyer) answered:

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Respect,loyalty, attraction,tolerance and hard work.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Who Cares?, Consulting) answered:

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live apart in different countries.

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A Trendsetter (Female, 29-35, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: divatoonami


Respect each other...communicate with each other.....and LOVE each other =)

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A Father Figure (Male, Norfolk, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: fluff47


Learn to love our spouses as they need to be loved and not they way you want to be.

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A Creative (Female, Dallas, 29-35, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: sherocks


a happy marriage is supporting each other dreams - encourage, motivate, and inspire each other

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A Rebel (Male, New York, 36-45, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: chching711


FAMILY TIME - DOING THINGS TOGETHER AS A FAMILY... VACATIONS, SHORT WEEKEND TRIPS, GAME NIGHTS AT HOME... MOVIE, POPCORN AND CANDY WITH THE KIDS ON A FRIDAY NIGHT. STRUCTURE IN THE HOUSEHOLD WITH MUTUAL RESPECT BETWEEN ALL, REGARDLESS OF AGE OR "FAMILY POSITION"

COUPLE TIME - WHEN WE HAVE FAMILIES, EITHER ONE OR BOTH OF THE SPOUSES FORGET THE EVER SO VALUABLE TIME TOGETHER THAT BROUGHT YOU TO THE POINT OF ACTUALLY "HAVING CHILDREN" AND "STARTING A FAMILY"... DATE NIGHT ONCE A WEEK, KEEPING THE CHILDREN OUT OF YOUR BED AT NIGHT, NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY AT ONE ANOTHER AND ALWAYS SAY I LOVE YOU. COMMUNICATE OFTEN AND NEVER LET THINGS BREW...

ALONE TIME - WE ALL NEED AN HOUR A DAY, SOME MORE, SOME LESS... REMEMBER YOU HAD A LIFE WITHOUT FAMILY AND SPOUSE BEFORE SPOUSE AND FAMILY CAME ALONG. REMEMBER YOUR FRIENDS AND GET TOGETHER WITH THEM AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH FOR A NIGHT OUT, WHETHER IT BE AT A BAR, AT THEIR HOUSE OR YOURS, A CUP OF COFFEE OR DINNER...

THESE ARE THE INGREDIENTS THAT I LACKED IN MY MARRIAGE AND I'M LEARNING THIS VALUABLE LESSON THE HARD WAY...
HOPE THIS HELPS


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A Thinker (Female, Denver, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: angelita


First of all, you have to marry the right person. There is a big difference between "Mr. Right" and "Mr. Right NOW." Make sure that the person you marry is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Make sure you both have similar dreams and goals in life. Don't expect that the other person will change after marriage. But you should have to change for him/her either. You both can compromise, though.

Also, honesty, respect, loyalty, faithfulness, open communication, committment, and understanding.

I am not married yet, but when I do get married, I will make sure to follow all of the above to ensure that I have a happy and stable marriage.

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, 29-35, Self-Employed) answered:

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communication

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A Thinker (Female, St.Louis, 29-35, Other Profession) answered:

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..I don't think there is one..it always depends upon how the people were BEFORE they got married..if they were happy and content people when they were alone..most likely they will be that way together.

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A Married Girl (Female, Los Angeles, 26-28, Administrative) answered:


Communications. Make each other happy. Don't let anyone tell you other wise.

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A Creative (Male, San Francisco, 26-28, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: foonlord


communication, REAL listening, trust, honesty, and serving each other.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: headscratching


love, honor and respect.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 29-35, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: playhouse933


90% of it is picking the right person.

Respect and communication cover the rest.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: jeansy


sex and communication lots and lots of both ;)

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A Hip-Hop Guy (Male, Detroit, 22-25, Student) answered:

Screenname: king313


I would say unwavering trust, tactful (brutal, if need be) honesty, and the ability to LISTEN.... being attentive to a partner's needs is vital to longevity....

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A Creative (Female, Miami, 18-21) answered:

Screenname: hinita1


Cooomunication

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