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Why keep going?
Why keep going? / Married Life / 4:08 AM - Thursday August 07, 2008
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An Alternative Girl (Female, 36-45, Who Cares?) asked:


Hoping AO can help me figure this out Here goes: A married man is having an affair has been for 2 yrs same woman, Wifey finds out on more than one occasion has threatened husband with divorce and losing his child. Man breaks up with mistress about a wk later starts all over again. Wifey finds out AGAIN this time papers are involved. This time man tells mistress its over for good he cant lose his kid 3 DAYS later knocking on other womans door. Question is..... If a man is seriously concerned about losing his child due to his affair why continue the affair?


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A Couch Potato (Male, 26-28) answered:

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well you cant play chess with children in the first place 9 times out of 10 when people stay together for the children it normaly screws the children up worse.

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A Rebel (Male, Chicago, 46-55, Retired) answered:

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Men do not lose their children unless the intend to by being absentee or abusive. He does not care if he loses his marriage or else he would not be doing this. He wants out of the marriage, but does not have the courage or ambition to initiate the proceedings although by having an affair he is indeed initiating such. The woman on the other end of the affair loves to be in the middle of these events or else she would not be there. The wife too loves the drama or else she would have already divorced him. Perhaps she has her own little Life apart from him that she is enjoying and all this drams is being played out for the benefit of all. Gotta love all this stuff. LOL

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A Creative (Female, Charlotte, 26-28, Self-Employed) answered:


Affairs are complex. You do not know what he sees in the other woman : companionship, talk, sex. Some people are addicted to their affairs, and mistresses.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Adelaide, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:

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The fact that he keeps calling it off with the woman suggests that he may in fact care for the status of his marriage to you and his children... and that this Mistress business is a temptation he is obviously having difficulty dealing with.
Have you asked urself recently, aside from the Mistress how is your marriage going? or asked him why he is with this other Woman? You might be able to fix the source of this problem rather than treating the symptoms... just a thought.. Good luck with it!!!

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

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When someone's words and actions don't line up, it means the person is lying.

Why does he continue the affair? Because the affair is obviously more important to him than his family.

I don't care what he says: his actions speak louder than words.

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