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I am interested in a guy outside of my husband
I am interested in a guy outside of my husband / Married Life / 8:07 AM - Thursday August 07, 2008
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A Married Girl (Female, Chicago, 29-35, Executive) asked:


I am married and I just recently got hit on by a guy who is telling me all the things that my husband is not telling me at home. For a minute I flirted back but then I stopped. I told him that we couldn't carry on like his because it's wrong and so we agreed that we would not talk on that level or we wouldn't talk period because he says he could not distinguish the difference in just talking as my friend and flirting so now we don't talk and I really miss chatting with him. Can someone please tell me how to get over this madness because it is not right and I already know this.


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A Career Woman (Female, 29-35, Fitness) answered:

Screenname: marycherry


Let you husband know what you you'd like to hear.
A key part of marriage is COMMUNICATION.


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A Thinker (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: springishere


Well, he knows that he is attracted to you and stepping into dangerous territory..so he is being the smart one by backing off..Find some new firends to talk to..unless you are looking for something..!!!!

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A Career Woman (Female, 29-35, Fitness) answered:

Screenname: marycherry


Let you husband know what you you'd like to hear.
A key part of marriage is COMMUNICATION.


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A Rebel (Male, Pittsburgh, 36-45, Managerial) answered:

Screenname: bytor


If you feel, in ANY way, that either him or yourself will not be capable of keeping things at a purely platonic level, then you should NOT embark back into this chatting-relationship.. . exposing yourself to temptation unnecessarily can and likely WILL lead to further expeditions into the realm of potentially cheating on your husband...

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A Creative (Female, 29-35, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: palm2palm


That can be very difficult, but not impossible. It is a beginning that you realize that it is not right.

I am not sure if you work with this guy. (I hope you don't, or I will have to ask you to consider getting another job.) It will be good to stay away from places where you will likely bump into each other. Warm feelings are like fire. They intensify if we continue to feed them.

If your husband is not the type who expresses his appreciation for you, try to create warmth by physical contact, i.e. cuddling, touching, holding hands. He will ultimately respond, and the warmth you get out of it will cover up for what you are not getting.

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A Thinker (Female, Washington, DC, 22-25, Financial / Banking) answered:


Guys constantly flirt w/ me, telling me how hot I am, asking me when I am gonna leave my s/o (we've been together 5 yrs)... and yeah, its a little ego boost and all, and I say "thanks" back, or just laugh it off, but I never take it to heart or take it seriously, it's just a bunch of babble. Hearing it from my bf is what sweeps me off my feet, not some random men. Anyway, you are going to get hit on throughout your life, I'm sure, but remember what you have at home. It's ok to feel flattered from it, and for the words to kinda excite you, but any further than that... then yes, you should put an end to it (so, you did the right thing here). Maybe try telling your husband he looks hot, or do things that flatter him, and I bet he does the same in return.

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A Father Figure (Male, 46-55, Civil Service) answered:

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leave your husband, it will eventually happen any way, always follow your heart. Women are smarter than Men.

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