The last time my son went to see his paternal grandmother, his father told my son that my boyfriend wasnt his dad. I dont know what my son said to him to make him say that, but when he came home that time, he says to my bf " my dad told my you're not my dad" ( They were playing when he came home, and my son just blurted it out.

He wasn't trying to punish him or anything) My bf got upset. So of course later on that night we got into it. He goes on and says that he has no right to say that to my son being as though he doesn't do shit for my son. Ever since he was born, his real father never did shit for him. I was on my own until I met my current bf. We have been together 3 yrs, and for those three years, he has been the man in his life. His real father would rather be somewhere doing his own thing.

My bf is the one stepping up to the plate. My bf works very hard to make sure we have everything that we need. I work hard too. And his real father sits around not trying to better himself. I understand that he doesnt make much, and I have to take the precautions that I need to take to get child support, however I make good money and so does my s/o, so to me, it just worked out better for me to not have to deal with his real father. Some of you may say that I am wrong but I dont care. His real father is a damn deadbeat, and I dont want my son going over there.

Yes I know that is his real father, but we have a stable environment, we moved out of the city, into the county, so my son can go to cleaner and better schools. The last time my son went over there with him, I called to check up on him. His father told me that they were at a playground. When he told me where the playground was ( in a drug infested neighborhood that mind you I used to hang 15 years ago) I immediately said I'm coming to get him. I will be right there. I dont want my son playing there. Too many little children are getting shot, and shit in the city just playing outside. I dont want my son there. We have playgrounds in our neighborhood. With all the violence going on in our areas, I am very scared to let my child go into those neighborhoods now. When I was younger, it was so much different.

Now the grandmother wants to see my son this weekend., I told her we have plans. I dont want to be like that, but I will not have that sorry ass disrespecting us like that. HOw dare him tell my son that he isnt his father. Now techinically he is right, he is not his biological father. But that man has been in his life, taught him how to pee standing up, taught him all about cars, is there for him when he is sick, he is the good guy whenmy son gets in trouble with me. SO I did not appreciate him saying all that. If he really gave a shit, then he would be trying to take me to court for joint custody, or if he gave a shit, he would make his presence know in my sons life, instead of popping up whenever he felt like it.

I know what some of you guys are going to say. But I needed to rant this one out.