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Am I right? / Dating / 12:34 PM - Thursday August 07, 2008
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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 22-25, Student) asked:


My ex broke up with me a little over three months ago. Since then he has been staying busy (he told me), going to Hooters bars, etc. Well, I've noticed that he has signed up for a few dating websites(Not the top guns like Match.com or Eharmony, but other smaller ones). Regardless, I contacted him a few weeks ago via email and we are still writing back and forth, albeit, friendly correspondences.

On his profile he put, "Newly single and looking for someone to spend time with," which I figured because I'm no where around and don't have time for him anymore.

Here is my thought and you can give me a reality, check if you'd like. I don't think he is over me. I think his pride got him in the way of either asking for me back or expressing regret. That, or he is very lonely. Typically when someone tries to jump into another relationship or date others very soon after a breakup they are attempting to fill a void. Hence, a rebound relationship

The reason I feel this way, is that he did not have to continue writing me back. I still have some of his things (and apartment key) and he told me I'm in no rush to return them.

Anyhow am I reading into this much, or do you agree with my theory on it all?


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A Thinker (Female, 22-25, Military) answered:

Screenname: misssparkle


Nothing you said shows that he misses you, in fact sounds like he's trying to get a SERIOUS jump start on moving on FROM you.
First of all HE dumped you, then no contact for THREE months and then YOU contacted him, honey, NOT the other way around. Sure he said no rush in returning the key, no need for him to be mean to you now is it, furthermore there was no talk in months so he has probably changed the locks dear.
I have jumped into relationships right after another, to make sure I DONT go back to the ex, and its pretty clear that he is doing just that, a mans got needs baby.
He's moved on from you, YOU have yet to move on from HIM.
Sorry.

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A Career Man (Male, Dallas, 29-35, Executive) answered:

Screenname: runner


No, I do not agree with your theory.

Jumping back in to the dating scene is what a person does when they move on. He broke up with you 3 MONTHS ago... what... should he wait 3 YEARS before he starts dating someone new?

Depending on how long the two of you dated, I am sure he still has feelings for you. He probably cared for you a lot. But, that does not mean he wants to be with you again.

My advice to you is to mail his stuff back to him. Then, tell him it is time that the two of you part ways for good, so you can both get on with your lives.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 29-35, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: blueyes28


I'd love to agree with you, but sometimes guys live by the phraese "only way to get over one is to get under another". I don't think guys dwell on relationships as we do. With that said, you know him better than I of course, and maybe he does regret, or maybe he does want you back. BUt if you feel this is so, why don't you take the step to ask him if you two can work things out. If of course that is what you want. Nothing wrong with you starting that communication to help him along.

Good luck, I hope YOU find what you want as well.

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