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Forgiving
forgiving / Dating / 2:19 PM - Thursday August 07, 2008
(Female, 26-28) asked:


Have you ever had a wonderful relationship or friendship, that turned ugly and turbulent...things got to the absolute breaking point where the most horrible things are said to each other and you expect never to speak to each other again. Then you realize that things can never get as bad as that, that's as bad as it gets...you two apologize and forgive, and from then on out...get along better than ever before, even after all the horrible things??

Why and how does this happen? I'm going through this right now..where I'm surprised we never killed each other, surprised we were both adult enough to admit wrong and say sorry, and forgive..and now I feel like, even after all that history, this is a new start and I can't imagine ever feeling that mad towards them again because that's as mad as I can ever get..like its not worth it to fight like that anymore.

Does that make sense?



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A Career Man (Male, Dallas, 29-35, Executive) answered:

Screenname: runner


Love is an emotion that can be as extreme as hate. In pondering this, there might even be a fine line between love and hate... in some kind of Einstein's relativity way of thinking.

Love is about passion, bottom line. Passion can be intense on both spectrums of love and hate. We all know that people can say the nastiest things to the one's they love the most. Because if you love someone all the way and them you, no matter what is said they will always be there for you... this is true love. So, for us to experience passion and love on all levels, sometimes we need to vent or argue or even yell and get whatever negativity we have pent up in ourselves out. The only person you can do this to is your true love.

So, that being said. If you can fight or yell or argue with your love, and then turn around and apologize and become even closer in love after an episode like that, then you know you've met the person you should marry and spend the rest of your life with.

My wife and I have had the biggest arguments I've ever had with a person in my life. I know we'll be together forever because we both have the ability to share all specturms our raw passions with each other, and in doing so create a bond that is unbreakable.

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A Father Figure (Male, Houston, 56-65) answered:

Screenname: lifestyle


Yes it does and once we hit the limit, we have to contorl it.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55) answered:

Screenname: tojayturbo


It does make sense - sounds like you started to communicate, and neither of you want to waste energy holding a grudge. Maybe the air is cleared, and you can go on.

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