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Boyfriend trying to get me pregnant?
Sex & Intimacy / 5:47 AM - Sunday August 24, 2008

Boyfriend trying to get me pregnant?

My boyfriend (he's 38, I'm 25) decided the last 2 times we had sex that he would come in me and not let me know. When we first started dating, he was careful with the birth control, and a few times we slipped up but he pulled out. Now, it seems he is not even doing that. He has mentioned on more than one occasion an interest in having kids. He's a grown man with no kids and no former marriages. I have no kids of my own either. He knows the consequences of cumming inside of me, but it doesn't seem to be stopping him, so I have to assume that he is doing it on purpose. Would a man be doing this purposely? I tried to mention it, but he managed to sidetrack the situation and didn't seem too concerned with the whole thing.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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A 38 yr old man with no known kids and no pregnancies earlier to boast of, would be having doubts about his own potency. According to his mindset (and this is applicable to anyone above 33 years of age) the next few years may give him his last chances to have a child of his own genes, and if he misses the bus, there is no way he can rectify the situation. So, there is something called an "ongoing panic" in his mind about the issue. At 25 years of age, you will never understand this, so don't bother. However you need to DO something about it.
FIRST: Clarify your own thoughts. Do you want to have a kid with this fellow now? Remember if there is NO REASON to delay a kid, it is better to have it right away, for reasons of your own (female) body stability. Read more about this if you need. Women who prolong pregnancies and deliverances too much run into lot of medical hassels later in life. So, if you are ready I would encourage you to have a kid unless there is a show-stopper, and that too would justify a delay of a few months or a year at the most. Nothing should be more important than your OWN LIFE, and remember having a kid at the right age is very very imporrtant.
SECONDLY: If you do decide to have a kid, do you want to have it with THIS fellow? He doesn't seem to be a bad sort, and mature men are better to have kids than younger (kids!) ones of 25-30. All the great men in the world have been concieved when their fathers were in the 35 years of age. So, you have a much better option than going for a 25 yearold brash fellow.
THIRDLY: Once you decide on your own, then talk to him. Don't let him get away from the topic. Tell him, that you need to know what is happening. Talk to him about his "ongoing panic" and consult doctors if needed.
Fourthly: If you do decide to have a kid, then go for it very positively. Have a romantic getaway for a few days with your periods in the right time, and fuck like rabbits for those few days. Believe me, you will remember these days for the rest of your lives and the kid will come out a happy one...!

All the best!

And don't forget to invite me for the naming ceremony, eh!

Cheers!

- Response by zhen, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Consulting

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ok 3 questions
1. How could you not tell he was blowing in you?
2. Why the fuck if you're not on the pill would you not make him where a condom if you didnt want to get pregnant ?
3. You do realise that the pull out method is not the smartest thing to do in terms of birth control ?

You have a choice whether or not he's allowed to blow inside of you, stop being a bitch and man up.

- Response by lift4ev3r, A Jock, Male, 26-28, Construction

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sure he could be doing it on purpose. he might feel that he wants to have kids and try to 'trap' u. i think my brother knocked up my sister-in-law on purpose for that reason. especially since ur bf is much older than u, he might be a different page in life than u are. if ur that concerned, go on the pill.

- Response by nicky711, A Thinker, Female, 36-45

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If you haven't discussed your future together then it seems a little irresponsible to be taking this somewhat lightly. Do you love one another? Are you prepared to bring a child into the world without two committed parents? Perhaps you should use birth control of some kind until you have 'that' conversation as you don't seem to have any definite plan. And yes, I would assume that he is doing it purposely. Just make sure that this is what you really want!

- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

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it's possible. he may be ready for kids and not want to take the chance of discussing it incase you say you aren't ready and refuse. this is equal to a woman lying about bc and 'trapping' a guy.
the choice of having children is one that should be made together. if you don't feel ready for children i would definitely get on some kind of bc, pills usually best, before you have any little 'accidents' running around

- Response by kents, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Leeds, Fitness

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well you know and your still allowing him to do it.. so if you get prego, you can not, REPEAT..can not blame him and say he did it on purpose because you let him knowing what he was doing.. you either put a stop to it.. or go on birthcontrol.. there is no other way out of it.. it's up to you now..

- Response by mburgos, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Philadelphia, Who Cares?

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Is that not the way it's suppose to bee done? Coming inside is natural.

- Response by dambreaker, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Retired

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how could you not know ?takes two to tango your the one that will get to change the shitty diapers most the time

- Response by kjman, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Construction

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Didnt you know when He cumm in you??? I would get my self on the pill FAST and tell him if he presists on the secretcy he needs to take a walk or stop playing games with you.

- Response by A Father Figure, Male, 66 or older

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