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How in the HELL does this happen?
Sex & Intimacy / 11:33 PM - Sunday December 28, 2008

How in the HELL does this happen?

A sexless marriage is defined as having sex less than 10 times a year...

Excluding anything medical, How does a couple allow a relationship/marriage become sexless?

- Asked by theinlaw30, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35

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We were just discussing it.
Some men have a strange affliction that once their partner has a baby, they don't feel like penetrating her vagina again. Ever hear of this? Is there a name for it? The person I was talking to knew of several cases.
There are folks for whom sex is just no big deal - low sex drive, disinterest, undiagnosed illness, or their partner is repulsive to them sexually, but they are still friendly enough to stay married. I know a few like this.
I don't get it, but then, that's not where we are in our marriage.

- Response by monana, A Career Woman, Female, 56-65, Who Cares?

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I think it would be incredibly EASY to happen. Year after year of the same freakin' thing gets BORING - I don't care if it's sex, food, TV shows, whatever....the same thing over & over simply gets old and you lose interest. People can try "spicing things up" all they want, but as you get older, you slow down, you work all day, raise kids....you don't have the ENERGY to be creative in the bedroom. I'd think you just want to be left ALONE to get some rest.

A bigger mystery to me is how any marriage does NOT become sexless after 10, 15, 20, 25+ years of the same thing, the same person, day in, day out......b.o.r.i.n.g... ..

- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking

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One partner loses interest in having sex. Why do you think a lot of married people have affairs. They are not getting the physical satisfaction from their spouse, so they look to someone else for it.

- Response by MaryAnne, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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I've been a student of the Nice Guy Syndrome almost since I first came here, five years ago.
After reading Dr Robert Glover's book "No More Mr Nice Guy!", it seemed to me, the Nice Guy Syndrome has to be the largest single cause of sexless marriages and marriage failures.
That's not to say the wives are innocent, oh no. It comes down to evolutionary psychology, which mostly applies to younger women. Mature, grown women won't be so susceptible to their biological programming, but it still happens a lot.

- Response by creepyolderguy, A Player, Male, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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whos deffinition is that

man that would be a living hell. torment torcher,

- Response by morningdust, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, New York, Self-Employed

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easy i used to be married and u get into a pattern you go to work come home shower eat and then all you want to do is sleep

- Response by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25

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They stay together but sleep separately.

- Response by scent, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Chicago, Technical

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I am poetic tonight- may I express......

Once in awhile,
Right in the middle of an ordinary life,
Love gives us a fairy tale.

The only things in life you regret,
Are the risks that you didn't take.

You don't love a woman because she's beautiful,
She is beautiful because you love her.

The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. :-) b.











- Response by aceadvise, A Creative, Male, 46-55, Las Vegas, Therapist

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