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Most of the time my guy is as hard as he can be. What does it mean if a guy is not completely hard?
Sex & Intimacy / 12:54 PM - Monday March 16, 2009

Most of the time my guy is as hard as he can be. What does it mean if a guy is not completely hard?

This weekend me and my guy were being intimate. We are very close. Just recently he has not been that aroused where he is supper hard. Just when we get into it he loses it. I can still fell it but it is not intense.

By the other day he was so hard that I am a little brusied inside so it was ok that he wasn't that hard. I just want to know why he isn't so hard and what I can do to make he harder. Does it mean that he is not interested when he is not hard?

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Thanks

- Asked by Female, 22-25

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That's a hard one.

Perhaps you are wearing the poor bloke out.

Just a thought.

...:)


- Response by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Technical

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Just sometimes he is more horny that others he might need more foreplay or he may have got himself off earlyer

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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It does not mean he is less attracted or interested. There are alot of causes. He could be more tired, he could be distracted with problems with bills or work. It could be anyting.
Even physical reactions that are totally out of his control. Foreplay may have been better, or atleast more stimulating at other times.
Just relax and do not overthink things so much. Sex is fun, and if he still gets as hard as you like most of the time, just realize that regular sex gets comfortable, and when comfortable, distractions can interfere. So a few things like sexy outfits and more concentrated foreplay may get his attention back on you and the hot sex you want. But it will never be first time hot for every occasion you have sex. Our bodies are too complex and somethings are just beyong control.
You know it could just as likely be you that is distracted, an he may be just as har as any other time. An easy way to find out, is when you feel that less hard sensation, change things up and go down on him, or 69, and that way you feel in your hands if he is responding, or if it is you.

- Response by wolverinesegg, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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it has nothing to do with how turned on he is. if you're woman who gets wet during sex you know sometimes it just doesnt happen no matter how hot and bothered you get. same with guys, sometimes it just isnt going to be a rock.

- Response by starbitrary, A Player, Female, 22-25, Therapist

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if he was so hard that you were bruised inside, then why do you want that all the time?

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Los Angeles, Medical / Dental

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