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Online daters: I'm new to the online dating thing. When, in your opinion, is the best time to ask
Dating / 12:40 PM - Sunday March 22, 2009

Online daters: I'm new to the online dating thing. When, in your opinion, is the best time to ask

out someone you've been talking to online, who lives in your town? This is assuming things are going pretty well. What is the better date for this kind of thing? Coffee, dinner, a walk in the park (she has a dog), maybe a candle-lit dinner on the mountain or rooftop? What are you ladies comfortble with for a first date?

- Asked by Male, 29-35

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I think when you realize that she's just as much interested in you, as you are her, that's when you should ask her out. I think meeting someone for the first time should be in a safe neutral place like a coffee shop/bookstore (Border's/Barne's and Noble/Starbucks/Caribou Coffee) would be fine. I don't think a place where anything could happen would be comfortable. As time goes on I'm sure things can progress to other activities. Personally, for myself, I'm partial to a nice restaurant to break the ice. I like to find out how the guy act, talk, and treat other people. You can learn a lot if you observe before, during, and after dinner. :-)

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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One of the first pieces of advice to learn is, NEVER ask women for dating advice! Instead, ask the men who are getting results [askmen.c om].
The thing about an online meetup is, take it OFFline as soon as possible. Don't let it turn into a virtual relationship.
Don't try the romantic crap until you know she's interested in you!
Here's how to tell the difference: Romance is how you show your feelings towards a woman. ATTRACTION is what SHE feels towards YOU.
Romance doesn't create attraction; only your flirting and social skills can achieve that. Use romance to amplify the attraction.
If a woman feels attraction for a guy, he can do nothing wrong. If she doesn't feel attraction, he can do nothing right. Create the attraction feelings, first.

The dog walk in the park is about right.
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- Response by chesterdad, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, San Francisco

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as with all people you meet online, take the time to get to know them. ask questions about their preferences and hobbies and life. usually around the 2nd week its ok to ask them out. that is unless you've both been rapid firing hundreds of emails and just seem like each other is the ONE for you/her.

and yes, ALWAYS take it light at first. coffee, walk in the park, but always where she'll be comfortable (other people are around, its safe, etc). after that, and if she likes you, you can ask her on a typical date. good luck

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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I chat for a least a few days to really get to know that person.

Then, if you think she is the one for you,You ask her out.
If she says yes, then good, if she says she's not ready yet or gives a excuse, then repeat step one.

- Response by guy506, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Houston, Other Profession

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