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Do you think that seduction is a dying art?
Sex & Intimacy / 1:17 PM - Friday April 03, 2009

Do you think that seduction is a dying art?

A friend of mine made an interesting argument that because of the whole friends with benefits (FWB) culture and the increasing openness/acceptability of casual sex, the art of seduction is getting watered down.

What do you think?

- Asked by surrealoptimism, A Creative, Female, 29-35

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oh, seduction CAN be lost if someone is lazy, but even in a casual relationship you can keep it heated up by working on it a little... I don't think it's FWB that's killin' the art, I think people are just bein' lazy.

- Response by dawsonmckay, A Rebel, Male, 36-45, Phoenix, Artist / Musician / Writer

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There is probably some truth to that. Many people are just looking for instant gratification without having to put any of their time or energy into establishing a relationship. Others are so eager to feel "wanted" and "loved" that they give in to the slightest pressure for a sexual relationship, hoping maybe it will develop into something more.



- Response by saucywench, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Cincinnati, Other Profession

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Personally I think the art of seduction or rather, the art of human contact lol; died in the technology craze. Not that people are having more casual sex. People had tons of that in decades before BUT we're just more open about talking about it now, I think. The art of seduction/courtship died in the age of the cellphone when text messaging became a means to communication, when phonecalls became too easy, when emails took the place of letters. There's nothing alluring or enchanting about technology. It's blunt, course and in your face, there's no perfume sprayed on a letter that you waited 2 weeks to get just to hear from the girl you like. Ya'know?

- Response by sweetness04, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Student

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personally, I am all about *The Seduction*

but then I have Never Nor will I ever have a *fuck buddy*


~wolfie

- Response by wolfspirit, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Self-Employed

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lol..."seducing" means the process of procuring sex from a hesitant or unwilling at first partner. Personally..if it's dead, then good riddance.

- Response by girldownunder, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Sydney

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I don't know... romance is kind of a seduction of sorts and my man and I cook for each other and have romantic candlelite dinners, bubble baths, etc... I think that is kind of a seduction of sorts.


- Response by A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Administrative

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Yes....along with courtesy, tolerance and civility.....all out of fashion, it seems.

- Response by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Technical

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Seems like seduction must be getting a lot better lately. It is succeeding all over the place.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction

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i meet you in a bar and i bet i could seduce you into having a wild orgasm filled evening with me!!!!.....

- Response by coco, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45, Charlotte, Technical

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Seduction is a sexy sounding word but it actually has very negative connotations. It is the bad boy of romance.
If you are romanced someone won your heart by demonstrating love with words and gestures.

If you are seduced it suggests that you were tricked into having sex with someone who was motivated by lust.

( I am pathetically pedantic where the english language is concerned :)

- Response by justapuss, Female, 46-55, Athens, Self-Employed

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