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I had sex on a first date with a guy i met online will there be a second date?
Dating / 1:55 AM - Sunday May 31, 2009

i had sex on a first date with a guy i met online will there be a second date?

i met D online we had sex on the first meeting i really like him but he seems a little stand offish we still talk online all the time but he keeps putting off a second meeting he says he dosent want to get hurt or hurt me is this a case of hes just not that into me?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

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It sounds like you and D are a no go. I met this guy once online met him for dinner and that was it. I keep trying to get a second date and finnally one day I asked him out right, would he ever consider sex with me and his ansewer was no that he just wanted to be friends. This was after various em's and text msg that made me think other wise. If he wants to be friends and you want that to then just be friends. If he never wants to see you again in person, then it was not ment. It just means there is someone out there for you who will be better for you.

- Response by Amiejo76, Female, 29-35, Food Service

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There are guys on the dating services that stay members for years and years! Women always ASSUME that they dropped their memberships when they began dating - USUALLY NOT TRUE!

And, another misconception is that these men are looking for the RIGHT GIRL. Not true! They are sleeping with many women all the time and do not intend to stop.

So, what happened to you is nothing to beat yourself up over. This man is most likely sleeping with multiple people STILL and will be doing it next year, with the same screen name.

This is ONE of the reasons that it doesn't make good sense to sleep with a guy you meet online, the first few times you date them. If you do not give it up, they will! Then you have your answer without all of this misery, doing it the other way.

I wrote an article for a women's magazine about this. I actually joined three of the dating sites and pulled all sorts of tricks on guys. It was all in the name of SCIENCE! lol

I had guys that were talking to me WITH WORDS OF LOVE AND MARRIAGE while, at the very same time, talking with three of my alias'. And, the other personas were ten years apart in ages; different color hair, etc. They just wanted FLESH that would lay down.

That does NOT mean that all guys on dating sites are dogs. But, it does mean that we, as women, must be vigilant, in screening these guys, when we meet them this way. You do not take anything for granted and you do not give away the most precious possession of yours to a total stranger. Ask them questions and get in their face. If a person was really serious about finding the RIGHT PERSON, they would be asking serious questions.

If this is a turn off to someone, then they are operating on another AGENDA and you don't need them!


- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Consulting

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i would suggest you either accept the fact that it was only sex for him and move on. the guy obviously just wanted to get you in bed . i am sorry this happened to you. he is not a very nice person to say the least. write him OFF! good luck and i hope you find a gentleman that will treat you right. :)

- Response by swtnsxy2, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45

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Sounds like this guy is either a pig, or very insecure and unable to commit. I think that you would be better off not counting on him for a relationship. If you so desire, remain friends with him, but know that nothing more will come of this friendship. I'm sorry that he used you like that. Good luck! HIS LOSS! right?!

- Response by computerdummy, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Oklahoma City, Self-Employed

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he only wanted a piece of ass! move on

- Response by silenceiskey77, A Thinker, Female, 18-21

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Usually if the sex was really good to him he would be right back for more so he must still be shopping

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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