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Do divorce laws favor women?
Married Life / 11:19 AM - Tuesday June 16, 2009

Do divorce laws favor women?

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- Asked by 1man4commonsense, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Divorce laws favor the lesser-earner, whether that person is male or female. For some strange Communist reason, the incomes of divorcing ex-spouses must be kept equal by the court after they no longer want anything to do with each other. So the harder you work during the marriage, the harder you get screwed during the divorce. Alternatively the less you work (and the more bonbons you eat sitting at home watching Opera all day), the better you make out during the divorce.

It's like Communism, but only two Comrades at a time. As in the full version, there is always one that parasites on the other. It's human parasitism at its best.

- Response by pumamgtow, A Rebel, Male, 36-45

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Yes, and so do support order laws.

It's wrong, and forces many otherwise good men outside the law, just to keep their own bills paid.

- Response by bytor, A Rebel, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I think they favor the person who makes less money, whether it be a man or a woman...when my sister divorced, she was the bread winner in the family and had to pay alimony to her ex husband after the divorce because he wasn't working and wasn't as educated or able to get a job like she could...she got $85 in child support from him and had to pay him $345 in alimony because she had a BA in Social Work and was working as an Administrator so she made more money than he it's not always the man who gets 'it' in a divorce, sometimes women can end up on the short end of the stick too when/if they make more money than their spouse...IJS...:D

- Response by fastball, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Self-Employed

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Divorce laws favor whoever made less money. However, society has basically dictated that, men work and women stay home with the kids. Abiding by that, yes, divorce laws favor women.

- Response by horsepowerjunky, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35

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It seems that way, when most end up with most and get custody.

- Response by lifestyle, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Houston

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No, the law itself, must read to be looking fair
the misuses are by the male judges and lawyers
they favor women, because they can manipulate them.

- Response by geester, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Celebrity

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It seems that way, when a man's life work is split in half, and goes to a woman that didn't exist before it all started.

- Response by wudaddy, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Dallas, Law Enforcement

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9 out of 10 cases, they do!

- Response by luvshooters, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 66 or older

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Not so much where I live. 'No fault' saved my ass! But not completely.

- Response by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65

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Probably. But it's a recent phenomenon. Historically, both marriage and divorce has always favored men. Women who got divorced years ago got nothing except finger-ponting and blame for "failing as a wife." So right now the pendulum is swinging in the other direction - call it "social karma." Someday it'll come to rest right in the middle where it should be, for fairness to all parties.

- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Financial / Banking

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---normally, with kids, yes...because were the ones who are normally look at as the nurturers.

- Response by pinknblu, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21

Rating Received: this for everyone? or is this really a male-bonding moment...gesh the answers...are making me chuckle.

- Response by pinknblu, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Some places it does, but not everywhere. I think this is because when women started getting divorced, some years back, it was considered a "mans world" and it was widely thought that women had nothing, and they deserved the support of the man when they divorced.
Let me say we are "evolving" slowly on this front, but it is turning into equality as it should.

- Response by nursefromky, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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Definately. They have for years and it's getting more uneven not less.

- Response by jjcabin, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Washington, DC, Technical

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if being entitled to half of everything is favoring, then i guess so. not in my opinion though.

- Response by beanielou, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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yes a whole lot

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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Oh, I just loved the answer that you starred.

When I divorced, I settled out of court for 1/2 of what was averaged to equal us out because of his bullying and whining.

He used that extra income against me by taking fun road trips and vacations that I couldn't afford to do to try to win our child over so he would want to live with him full time. You don't know how many times I heard, "We never go anywhere. It's more fun at my dad's house." "Why don't you buy me a Playstation over here?"
I took my kid to the park, rode bikes with him and we went out to eat occasionally. I did what I could with the little money I had.

I was not a parasite. I worked full time and took extra hours, and had to take a job with less pay than what I was trained to do because there just weren't any jobs for me at that time in the area. Eventually I found a better job that isn't equal pay to his, but at least I'm not poverty level anymore.

This is why the divorce laws are the way they are. It's so the kids don't live in poverty with one parent while the other parent lives in a lovely house and nice cars and wins the children over with their extra money. Or worse, that they keep it for themselves and the children go without.

And they don't favor women around here at least. The law listens to the social workers and guardians ad litem who tend to side with the fathers around here.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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women initiate 80% of divorces... coincidence?

- Response by mmmmbeer, A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Toronto, Who Cares?

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In terms of custody and support, they both favor women hands down. Receiving alimony and child support which are in many cases astronomical, are like winning the lottery for women. Meanwhile, those couples living together and both working know for a fact that they do not spend $1000 monthly raising a child. It's ridiculous for the non-custodial parent to have to pay this amount after divorce or separation because child care costs do not change so dramatically after the fact, given both parties work. Is it any wonder many Americans go abroad to marry. It must have important tangible benefits.

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 29-35, Newark

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Well lets look at my situation. Wife 74% of assets me the balance. She contributed nothing to asset base whatsoever. Oh and I raised the kids at least as much (I did not have to work for 10 years due to business success)
She convinced the children to never see me after separation so she would receive child support ($1200/wk) and to ensure this situation continued she moved to another state. She is a highly paid professional who earns a large income. My business continued to deteriorate during the recession so today I live in relative poverty and she is a millionaire living a wonderful life. The system totally sucks if you are a successful and providing man. Of course men are slowly learning about these issues and less are willing to ever be married again. They simply cant afford it!

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Sydney

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