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Do you think it's ok for your s/o to look through your texts?
Dating / 9:39 PM - Saturday July 04, 2009

Do you think it's ok for your s/o to look through your texts?

yes? no?

Update: July 04, 2009.
thank you all who responded! and i respect everyones opinion even if its different then mine :) i actually got a lot more responses than i thought haha :P

Update: July 04, 2009.
i have nothing to hide, but i think, personally, no he/she shouldnt. my girlfriend does and i honestly kind of dont care, but there was once that my friend said something about her to me through a text and she took it the wrong way...long story short, it resulted in a huge argument thing that lasted about a month and almost caused a break up many times. now theres not as much trust and i dont like her going through my phone because its MY personal privacy and MY business, not hers. but now she gets mad when i tell her not to because she thinks i dont trust her and that i have something to hide..and i NEVER look through her phone, btw

- Asked by Male, 18-21

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Whether I'm doing something or not, my privacy is my privacy. My girl might tell me to get something out of her purse and I either tell her to get it herself or I bring the purse to her because I just have a way about me, I dont want to find something I shouldnt find and I think it saves for future arguments and in the likelihood she might go off her rocker one day and say 'well you go thru my stuff all the time' the same goes in the case of texting. Good luck with your girl and your privacy my man. Peace. :)

- Response by mortaune, A Guy Critical, Male, 22-25, Student

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my s/o, wife, girl friend can look at, in, under, through, any thing she wants to, I have nothing to hide from any one!

- Response by loseing, A Guy Critical, Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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Why not? You've got something to hide?

- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 26-28, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I totally disagree boyfriend or girlfriend is a no no! I personally get annoyed I have nothing to hide. Unless my phone rings & I can't get to it and I have him answer it or read the text for me or if he asks yeah whatever. Otherwise I feel there's is no trust & I can't handle a relationship with no trust. I feel I'm being pushed around. I believe if you don't give your loved one a reason your cheating or whatever no they have no right!

- Response by crystalsordiamonds, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Student

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If I had an s/o, he would be welcome to go thru my texts, emails, phone msgs, facebook acct...I've got NOTHING to hide.

- Response by snowbear08, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Who Cares?

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Depends. Do you look through hers...or his??

- Response by snowbelle, A Cool Mom, Female, 56-65, Atlanta, Medical / Dental

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Boyfriend or girlfriend is a no no! I personally get annoyed I have nothing to hide. Unless my phone rings & I can't get to it and I have him answer it or read the text for me or if he asks yeah whatever. Otherwise I feel there's is no trust & I can't handle a relationship with no trust. I feel I'm being pushed around. I believe if you don't give your loved one a reason you cheating or whatever no they have no right!

- Response by crystalsordiamonds, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Student

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I am okay with my s/o looking through my texts.
I have nothing to hide...




- Response by wendyshoefitz123, A Player, Female, Who Cares?

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I have nothing to hide so it's technically ok but I wouldn't like her going through my texts assuming that I do.

- Response by kickinghawk, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 22-25

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No.

But I wouldn't go through his, either.
We respect each others' privacy.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Celebrity

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god no, one of the biggest fights ive evr had with my boyfriend was because he did that. I grew up in a house where if someone read someone elses diary and blabbed about what was writte they would get punished instead of the writer.

- Response by jeangenie, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21

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Personally for myself I say no. Cause though I have nothing to hide, why can't he trust me enough to believe me without going through my stuff that way? I could see if there was an incident where I had tested his trust and it would calm him down to go through them. But if I never gave him any reason to then he shouldn't in the least.

Now with my view out the way, I turn it back to you and say that if you have a understanding with your s/o to go through each other's stuff then that is what is ok in and for your relationship. If not I think you both need to talk about respecting each other's privacy real quick before it ends your relationship.

- Response by CursedRomantic, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Columbus, Student

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I don't care. I have nothing to hide. I'd let my s/o go through anything I have or use. To not do so would be to not trust and as such would not allow for a completely open relationship. Just my opinion.

- Response by timeforanoverhaul, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Denver, Retail

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It wouldn't bother me at all. I have nothing to hide


- Response by girldownunder, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Sydney

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He'd be awfully bored if he did, and I can't say I would mind, *unless* he was doing it to "check up" on me. If I found out he was so paranoid that he felt he needed to thumb through a paltry sum of boring texts from my business partner and the marketing department at Verizon in order to make sure I'm not getting jiggy with other men, I might start to question his suitability as a mate.

- Response by pandorasfault, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Teaching

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If not the texts, then the phone bill.

- Response by jasmine27, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Student

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I don't have an "s/o" ... I have a WIFE.

She can go through whatever she likes of mine that doesn't bore her to tears. No "secrets" between spouses, it's destructive to not trust each other.

I have and respect my privacy, but anything she wants to know, is hers for the asking. Email, text, answerology...


OTH, if we were not married, that boundary would be set further out, and she would not be entitled to "snoop" through my private things until we were married.



- Response by cd92835, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45

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I wouldn't care, seeing that I think texting is evil*cough can't afford* and I don't text. I have nothing to hide, and the only person I would be hypothetically texting is him.

- Response by sanguinenight, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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being nosy is not a good thing- are snooping

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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Absolutely NOT! Having a relationship does not mean a forfeiture of privacy.

- Response by gilpill, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Internet / New Media

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i let my guy go through mine and i go through his if i feel like it. it's paid off in the past cause i've found some texts from other girls he'd been talking to. it has resulted in some arguements, and i rarely look through his phone now, and if i do, i ask.

- Response by jess_412, A Thinker, Female, 18-21, Student

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I don't care if my husband looks through my phone, but if he saw something that unsettled him, then he would ask before jumping to conclusions.

I don't have anything to hide, and I would rather that if it helps him to get over doubts that he read my boring texts.

I read my husbands, but only because if I don't then he never will. Usually it's just texts saying that our credit card was used, or that a flight will be canceled/delayed, so it's good to keep an eye on it.

- Response by milla, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35

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No. A woman should never snoop through a man's stuff.

On the other side, women need a man's guidance or she goes nuts.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction

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