Boyfriend broke up with me. He wants to take away the physical and just spend time together; no hope

I think you might need to stick this one out for a while. It seems to me that he does care about your relationship, so kudos for him for trying to make it work. If you really think taking the physical aspect out of your relationship temporarily will actually ruin everything you two have, then you may want to rethink being in this relationship. Don't you want someone you connect with on ALL levels?

A side note-Stop being crazy. I know this is easier said than done, but a girl very close to me is about to lose her boyfriend for being a complete basket case. (Jealous, possessive, mean, obsessed with marriage, etc.)

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Honey, this will be a slow painful exit by him. He's doing it this way due to the obligations of a lease; you probably having no where else to go and that as time goes on, it will be less painful and possibly mutual by that time.

I hate to tell you, but when a guy pulls away like this, it is the beginning of the end, I'm afraid. There is NOTHING here that says "I want to be with you" especially when the physical intimacy is taken away.

I have never known a physically intimate relationship that suddenly stops be seen as a new beginning. He knows you'll fall apart if he either left or had you leave. And he's doing this because he doesn't want to live a lie; he doesn't want you to feel used; he doesn't want to give of himself when he's no longer "in love", regardless of what he's telling you, he's not "showing" or "demonstrating" the love, sweetie. Don't wear rose colored glasses with this situation or be in denial. It is what it is. And he'll say what he needs to, to keep you from going off the deep end and until the impact of the "break up" isn't so awful.

Wishing you the best, good luck

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I'm sorry, but this is some bullshyt. Please forgive me, but it sounds a lot like a relationship I was in. One where the woman (me and you) let the man hold ALLLL the power in the relationship. And it's not fair. We as women always want to make something work. It's just what we do. We think that if something doesn't work out, then it's automatically our own faults. But it's SO not true. And the guys don't accept their own responsibility in the situation.
"But I should be lucky that he still wants to be around me, right?"
I don't know any guy who has a woman right in his face, that wouldn't be GLAD to get "the physical".
This guy is either seeing someone else, or he's one his way out of the relationship.
You've messed up in the relationship so much... howso? Were you the only one who messed up?
I don't mean to sound harsh, but you need to start evaluating your own feelings. Find out what you need from him. Write everything down. Then try to have a talk with him and tell him exactly what these needs are. Before you talk to him, plan out what your course of action will be, depending on how he responds in the discussion. In other words, what are you going to do if he says he cannot give you what you want/need. Are you willing to leave?

Lastly, don't be afraid to leave. I guarantee you, if you've been doing everything right, this guy will regret his mistake of leaving you, and want to come back. They always do.


-The Sphinx

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