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Why does he want to cum on my face?
Sex & Intimacy / 6:30 PM - Monday July 13, 2009

Why does he want to cum on my face?

He keeps asking if he can, but I don't get why. And when I asked him he just said "I just do." Any insight?

Update: July 14, 2009.
Wow. This was interesting, I didn't expect this kind of response. Thank you to all of you who actually answered my question... it was very helpful.

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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I just want to say that I think myndseye711 is really funny b/c she totally called what the rest of the women were going to say haha. Apparently alot of women find it disrespectful, but I really don't see what the problem is, I mean come on (no pun intended haha), it's not like he's slapping you around then saying, "That's right, take it all bitch!" I hear that a lot of guys love a girl who let's them cum in her face because seeing his uh..."man love" on you is a huge turn on, like a girl who swallows.

I think you should try it and see how you like it, and if you don't like it, tell him you don't. That way you both get what you want; he gets a night of bliss and you get to shower and never have it happen again. Everybody wins lol;)

- Response by lovinglife29, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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There are a few women on here who are going to tell you what a "bad man" he is for wanting that and how demeaning and disrespectful it is.

Don't listen to them!

Think about it. Visualize it. You will understand why. Sometimes it's hard to explain the "why" because it's simply a preference, like why you like blonds or smart guys or athletes.

If you don't feel comfortable, tell him so! If not, try it once and see if you like it.


- Response by myndseye711, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35

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Okay, I'm going to repeat what I said in Sweetness's question:

If I were a man I imagine I would want to cum on a cute and attractive face....so you should take it as a compliment lol

Seriously though, there is no rhyme or reason to cumming on a person's face. The reasoning behind it I can tell you are not for comedy's sake....it's not to humiliate the partner in any way....it's more about they want to see their "work" in full display on the pretty face of the person they are fucking. There is sort of a primal lust to it all.....yes, the semen does not belong there...which I think adds a subconscious element of thrill, or taboo...I can't explain it.

It's definitely a voyeuristic thing....they want to SEE it. A lot of men are more voyeuristic by nature than women...they like to see naughty sex acts...taboo things that aren't supposed to happen to prim and proper women that aren't supposed to be like that.....it's all harmless fantasy for the most part.

As for the affection, caring, and respect...it's a sex act..it's no more disrespectful than anal sex, a blowjob, or any other sex act that is done not for the use of procreation....that's just my opinion though lol.


- Response by sharonpeters, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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Woman! It simply would turn him on to see that nasty on your face!

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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One word.

Porn. He thinks it's hot to cum on your face cause all the little slut puppies in porn get cum all over their faces and even rub the guys dick all over their faces too....



- Response by hnygrl, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Managerial

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He's been watching too much porn! I think he needs to respect your decision not to participate in such an act. To be honest I really never saw the point in this.

- Response by kdtxchic30, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Maybe wants to be like all those male porn actors who shoot their wad on the women's faces they are having sex with.

- Response by msadvise, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Transportation

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If you think you'd like it then try it. What's the problem? If you don't want it, or like it after you try it, then just say so. The only thing i say is, don't let ANYONE pressure you into ANYTHING you don't want to do. That'd be the only issue.

- Response by me45613, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Administrative

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Because it's fun of course.

You can come on his face too you know.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

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so let him..its not going to hurt you..some guys just like that stuff..If I am in a relationship and we are both cool with it then it is not disrespectful to let him,when he asked first..it would be disrespectful if he just did it with no warning or when he had been told no..

- Response by eagerbeaver, An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

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A "facial" is what's done in a lot of porn movies. For some reason, some men like cumming in the face of their sexual partners. This is a fantasy that he's seen in a porn movie. Don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable doing.

- Response by rhunt0210, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Other Profession

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He must be a Porn fan.

- Response by usarmy24id, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Celebrity

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It is a diffrent kind off thrill to put it all over her face

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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he likes seeing you with the stuff he loves on your face. its not bad, ive had my face cummed on before.

- Response by undercoverpenislover, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, Chicago, Who Cares?

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it feels so good- even when its all over her body- she rubs it in.

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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Maybe its just a fantasty he has or either he has been watching to much porn. Do what you feel comfortable with.

- Response by wonderman77, A Creative, Male, 36-45

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I think he just wants to play naughty!

- Response by A Couch Potato, Male, 46-55, Salt Lake City, Retired

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Yes, you obviously have the face of a troll and it scares the hell out of him

- Response by sphincterboy, A Trendsetter, Male, 66 or older, Dhaka, Celebrity

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he's seen one too many porn videos.

- Response by miniestcooper, A Sportif, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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THEY like that. Women haven't been degraded enough. :/

- Response by twocents47, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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He's been watching too much porn. Most porn is FOR men, and the women in it act like they LOVE being treated like shit by the guys. This somehow is a turn-on to alot of guys - to think they can treat a woman like a dirty piece of garbage and she's going to LOVE it.

A guy ejaculating in his partner's face is a dominance thing and a gesture of contemptuous disrespect from the man towards the woman. *No wonder* he won't tell you why he wants to do it.

- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Financial / Banking

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you need a man to answer this. But ya know how when they are boys, and they like to "mark" their territory in any shape and form? I think it stems from that. Or they watch too much porn and want to act it out. If you are ok with it, I say go for it. He asked at least.

- Response by honey1306, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Denver, Who Cares?

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That is disgusting, demeaning and just plain gross. It is the fantasy of misogynistic men that get off on disrespecting women. No man that loves his woman wants to do something like that TO HER. Your dude is a knucklehead. Tell him NO WAY and if he asks you to do something you find so distasteful again you are going to break things off.

He saw that shyt on a porno movie and now like a little kid, wants to copy what he saw. Why can't he copy something like how to send his woman to the moon with tantric sex or something. These boys that are trying to be men just kill me. I don't know how you women put up with this crap.

- Response by msheartbeat, A Trendsetter, Female, 46-55, San Francisco, Self-Employed

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he just wants to see how far you'll let him go. Men more than likely see that as how willing you are to let him dominate over you. That is one of my rules... cum anywhere you want but not on my face. I see it as a sign of disrespect

- Response by joent612, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Tampa, Administrative

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don't you see the eroticism behind that request?

- Response by mzcommitmentphobe, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Hospitality

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do not know why he would want to do his.
ask him what is his "get off" in wanting to do this.
do not see any reason why he would want to...it is disgusting to me.

- Response by amandasboy, A Father Figure, Male, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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Many women feel that cuming on her face is disrespectful. I sure can understand that. That also seems to be a porn thing--yuck. Besides I have always said that since a woman sits on two wonderful openings, to cum in or on her mouth is a total waste of perfectly good cum.

- Response by gilpill, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Internet / New Media

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Well it's obvious what kind of response you was looking for. Even the guys said he's been watching too much porn, and you gave them shitty ratings. LOL Let him shit on your face for all we care. Go ahead, "just try it and see if you like it"

- Response by twocents47, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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disrespect

- Response by sweetness04, A Trendsetter, Female, 26-28, Artist / Musician / Writer

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If it bothers you you should say no. But what is the harm? Try new things. See what it does for your relationship. He has expressed this desire so go for it.

- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Houston, Other Profession

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Myndseye is a genius...go with her answer.



- Response by stillagoodguy1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Celebrity

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WHAT HAPPEND TO PLEASE EACH OTHER?? I THINK ITS JUST GROSE GROSE GROSE, IF HE IS ANY KIND OF MAN HE WOULDNT EVEN ASK, MUCH LESS DO IT. IT SURE ISNT HAPENING HERE! JUST MY OPINION,

- Response by tchris1645, A Cool Mom, Female, 56-65, Transportation

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I will gladly take jerk points on my response to this one. But really what kind of born in a barn behavior mentality does your dude have to think its ok to cum on your face? Heck yes I find it demeaning and disrespectful. Hell a man doesn't have to smack you around to disrespect you, but through other actions such as this he can sure as hell demonstrate how he really feels about you. Heck if he really wanted to see his cum on you, he could do it on your breasts or stomach or somewhere else other than your face. I'm sorry but sounds like this dude has some ideas about putting women in their place. And for those that say he got it from porn, if one actually sees how they treat some of the women in porn before they do that cum on the face stuff, then they would understand that it is disrespectful. I'm a fan of porn and I'm a fan of experimenting but if someone can't see the difference between mutual pleasure and exerting dominance over their partner in a negative way then they are crazy.

- Response by CursedRomantic, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Columbus, Student

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lol, that is gross. joan612 and Curseromantic are right. it is disrespectful and it is a way to test how far you can go. i wouldn't be surprised if u did it, that he tells his friends.

and ask him, would he be ok having an orgy with 5 guys?...cos that thought really turns you on. i wonder what he would say *ponders*

- Response by brokenwriter20, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, London, Student

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but he told me it was a wrinkle cure !!!

- Response by isotope, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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Any guy is gonna "love" a woman that let's him cum all over her, get blow jobs at a drop of the hat, have threesomes, cheat on her and treat her like a dog, especially those bi girls. lol They're up for being anybody's piece of shit, but wait til he finds out she's gettin funky with everyone else. That's just nasty. :)

- Response by twocents47, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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