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Ive asked this twice now but never makes it through... Older woman and younger man, can it work?
Sex & Intimacy / 2:46 PM - Thursday October 22, 2009

Ive asked this twice now but never makes it through... Older woman and younger man, can it work?

I have a thing for a guy almost 8 years younger than me... he is very mature for his age and has two kids. I really like him but have never seriously considered anyone younger than me.... what are your opinions on a guy younger/girl older relationship. I am not a Cougar, I did not seek him out... it kinda just happened and we have clicked! My friends are laughing at me because I have usually been ageist against dating younger guys. They really like all this or at least teasing me about it!

Update: October 22, 2009.
Wow, good advice from both sides of the fence. I appreciate it all! Thank you! To answer Q's, I am 34 and he is 26. We were neighbors growing up and our families know each other and I had not seen him since he was a kid until recently. I do not have kids. And I have seen Cougar Town, it is funny but I don't really relate to it (yet!). :)

- Asked by A Sportif, Female, 29-35

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I married a man 6 yrs younger then me last year. We have been together for almost 5 yrs. When I met him I was a divorced single mother and he had never been married and no children. So it can work! I think the most important thing is that you are both on the same page in life, that your goals, dreams, etc. compliment each other.

For instance I was done having kids when I met my husband, but seeing as he never had any kids of his own this was obviously something we had to talk through. Communication is very important! In the end it comes down to compatibility and chemistry. Good luck!

- Response by kdtxchic30, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Dallas, Who Cares?

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It works for a while, then eventually he will dump you for a younger woman with younger toned pussy and titts. Enjoy it while it lasts. Have you been watching "Cougar Town"?

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Alternative Medicine

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I don't know why it wouldn't work out and don't know why you are worrying so much. You are a big girl and just go with your gut.

I know plenty of couples with a age difference and don't think there is anything written in stone that says the man always has to be the same age or older.

TO be honest I think having a relationship with a older woman is the only way to go. Let at it this way. Women by average live several years longer than the poor guy. It's the only way the poor guy has a chance :-)

Good luck..................

- Response by usarmy24id, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Celebrity

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Hm.. your in the age range of 29-35 and he's 8 years younger so he's in the 21-27 range. It doesn't compute.

He You
27 35- no
26 34- no
25 33- no
24 32- no
23 31- no
22 30- yes
21 29- yes

He's somewhere between the age of 21-27 and has 2 kids already. Wow. Do you have any kids? Blended families dont work. If your without child there is a chance it could work.

Otherwise, I dont see you as a cougar but as someone who is potentially making a poor decision. Why? For one.. why on earth would you want to be with someone with 2 kids? Trust me blended families dont work. They're heartbreakers... dont go there.

I dont see age as a determining factor to break as much as his (or your) kids.

Good luck friend.

- Response by skycop, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Portland, Consulting

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In your case it could work. Eight years isn't so bad.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Boston, Science / Engineering

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It works for a while, then eventually he will dump you for a younger woman with younger toned pussy and titts. Enjoy it while it lasts. Have you been watching "Cougar Town"?

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Alternative Medicine

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Of course it can work. I have two friends who married (the second time around) men who are ten years younger than they are (one was 36 and one was 45 when they got married). Both couples seem to have built very loving, solid relationships.

- Response by carinabay, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Lawyer

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of course it can work. It depends totally on the people involved.

- Response by singledad281, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Houston, Veterinary

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You're way too young to be a "cougar" (GOD, I hate that term).

What's 8 years in your age bracket and his? Practically nothing, especially if he's already raising children! Men die earlier---sounds like a pretty good age diff. to me if it terms into something long term. Women in their 40s (not too far off for you) NEED a younger model guy to keep up with their hormones.

- Response by ocelotspot, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Columbus, Who Cares?

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My opinion is that it will have its ups and downs like any relationship and that age won't even be a factor. I was married to a guy my same age for 11 years, was with a guy 12 years older for 6 years and am now dating a guy 10 years younger, lol. If you enjoy each other's company, you don't notice the age difference very much, and the few times you do, you will find them endearing. Don't worry yourself with how long it will last or what he sees in you or what his motives are; you're just starting out with him, so just live in the moment and enjoy!

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Baltimore, Who Cares?

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My stepfather is 8 years younger than my mom. He helped raise my brother and me, we were 4 and 10 when they started dating.

- Response by dancindiva9, A Creative, Female, 18-21, Winnipeg, Teaching

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