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Is it possible at all?
Dating / 7:33 AM - Tuesday October 27, 2009

is it possible at all?

Did any of you get back together after a heartbreak so big where the other one just cut you loose and refused to look at you, talk to you or answer your calls? After how long? How did it happen?

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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It is painful to accept, I do understand why we hope against hope that he will at least call, email, text, ..and then days go by, weeks go by, months go by, even then you still hope as he is in your mind everyday. You don't call him as he made it clear he wants no contact. It is a hard cold way to live. There may be a few people out there that actually got back together, but I would say it is a rare exception. Though you don't realize it now, it may be a blessing in disquise as there are many people in this world, many of them are special and wonderful. So hold on to hope that something or someone else for you is just around the bend.

- Response by cinders717, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

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I do'nt think it ever works out.I never saw it work.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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I've been with my husband for almost 9 years and the first 5 years were rocky - off and on, more on then off. Then one summer - august 2003, we got into this HUGE fight. The things I said to him, I would never forgive someone if they said those things to me. I swore at that time that I would never be with him again. I was soooo hurt and hated him. We didn't speak to each other for 9 months, then out of the blue he called me. And we hung out for about 6 months and then I just stopped talking to him. That was 2004, then around Christmas that year he called me again and was like what happened to you, we hung out until March 2005, he disappeared this time. I didn't hear from him until October that year. I never called him and then he called me again in February 2006 and for some reason, we got our timing right and have been together ever since. We got married in May this year. So, even with the worst break-up you can get through it - IF you two were meant to be. Him and I were meant to be we just needed to get our timing right.

- Response by A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35

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I was dating a man over thress years ago. We hit it off. We dated for six months...bit of an LDR as he lived an hour and half away. We fell in love. He broke up with me just after Xmas. He broke up with me by text message...so cowardly and lame. Would not speak to me or take my calls. I was so very sad. But his mom was dying and there was a lot of family pressure on him. Finally we started talking again a couple months later, had a few dates, and he told me that he could not live without me. He asked me to marry him several months later, we got engaged, have been engaged two years (no hurry to marry), are living together and are happy. It can happen, rarely.

Sometimes people need to have a reality check and have an opportunity to experience what they have lost, due to their own fault, then they see what they have lost.

He hurt me. I was really devastated, but I just kept going. I do believe that if you're meant to be together, God will arrange that.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Things with my first love ended badly...very badly. It was devastating.

For this first six months, I wouldn't talk or even look at him. He tried to approach me a few times, but I would just walk away.

Then on Christmas Day, we ran into each other at a gas station as we were each on our way home. His parents and my grandparents lived in the same neighborhood. We talked, he gave me his new phone number and asked me to call. I did a few days later and we had a nice chat, but we never discussed our break-up.

I lost his phone # soon afterwards and since I had never given him mine (which had been changed around the time of our break-up), we lost touch.

So even though we never got back together, I'm glad that our last few interactions were good ones. I have no hard feelings towards him and I'm sure that he harbors none towards me.

But, it's still over.




- Response by snowbear08, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Political / Government

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Yes, we got back together a few months later but history repeated itself ... again!

- Response by eccentrica, A Hippie Chick, Female, 29-35

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