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Why aren't guys in Manhattan dating anymore?
Dating / 10:31 PM - Tuesday October 27, 2009

why aren't guys in Manhattan dating anymore?

the thing is.. i broke up with my boyfriend like 5 months ago.. and i haven't had a date with someone else yet.. and I am not asking for a relationship, but i haven't even find anyone to hook up with!!!! it's crazy, i am not ugly in fact i am good looking and nice and funny but it's VERY frustrating to go out and don't find someone interesting.

is this something to do with the economic crisis?? honestly i don't know what to think anymore.. maybe i just forgot how to flirt! but i am only 23 so that shouldn't be a prob!!

any comments from girls in my situation or guys don't wanting to date??

- Asked by jUaNaDEaRcO, A Trendsetter, Female, 22-25, New York, Fashion

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yes, many single guys have taken a bit hit in their net worth because the cruch has hit nyc harder than most cities due to the high concentration of finance people here, it slows down the social life

try the standard hotel in the meatpacking district- its full of single people and upscale, new and Hot! the garden outside is best. I met two beautiful women there.

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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Eh... I think guys our age just kind of tend to not go the traditional route. With so many ways to get instant gratification, it seems that anything good starts off from friendships or spontaneous run-ins at the laundromat rather than purposefully looking for someone to spend time with.

My advice is to just, and you're going to hate this but, "get yourself out there." Not in a way that you're looking for a guy, but in a way that you're just having a blast with life. And you know what? Something amazing happens. When you do run into a guy, you'll see him as a human being rather than a potential mate, and your conversation and actions will reflect that. He'll feel a LOT less pressure, and voila, he wants to spend time with you, because you're not like every other girl.

I feel like the very day I decided to just stop looking for a guy, I met someone amazing. The whole encounter was so casual that I was completely unaware that he had actually invited me to his show the next night. It wasn't until my friend said, "He was cute, are you gonna go? You guys were totally flirting!" that I realized I had just had a great conversation with an awesome guy, and he genuinely was hoping to see me again. And I didn't eve have to try! To put it simply: because I wasn't looking at him with the face a dog makes when you're eating, he seemed to be much more open to me.

Not to say you make dog faces of course :) The best way to flirt is just be yourself, because you won't have fun with someone who isn't attracted to your natural self, right? You've still got it girl, good luck!

- Response by jadnilem, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Artist / Musician / Writer

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yeah, it must be your flirting skill or lack of it!

learn to flirt effectively! good luck

- Response by laylayla, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

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