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What's the point of falling in love?
Dating / 9:41 PM - Monday November 02, 2009

What's the point of falling in love?

...if it never works out?

- Asked by dazednconfused19, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25, Student

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the point? sometimes it DOES work out
then---its ALL been worth it

- Response by roaminginsomniac, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

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Loving is for the living and as long as there's blood pumping thru you're going to grow close to someone or something. Whether it lasts may not be solely up to you but you can enjoy it while you've got it, a lot like life. Anything can happen, we take our spills and get back up again not because we know the next step is going to be any easier than the last but because the only thing you can ever really do is get back up and try again and apply the lessons you learn and not the fears to future situations or give up and jump over the cliff because you weren't willing to give yourself a fair chance.

- Response by mortaune, A Guy Critical, Male, 22-25, Student

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Might be doing it for the wrong reasons! This is not intended as a slur on the young (I wish I were young again!!!) but until one is about 30, one's brain has not fully grown and doesn't fully function as it should. This means it is unlikely that lasting relationships will form earlier than that.

It is true, a lot of relationships begin much much earlier than that. But look at the divorce rate! About half break up and that isn't even counting the live ins!

It usually takes experience to finesse a good relationship of any permanency.

- Response by rekkonball, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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There isn't.....but luckily...some take longer to not work out than others do.For me i've been waiting 18 years on it to go south and it still hasn't yet.

I figure if I make it to just 20 years that will be fine.That's longer than a car engine lasts before you have to change it out.

- Response by justme38271, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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Hopefully, the sex in between, will make it worth while.

Thats about all that you can get "LEGALLY" in a love relationship you cannot get some other way.

- Response by nuttyprofessor, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Transportation

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Before you fall in love with someone, ask youself...What are you looking for and expect from that person. Then ask your self the same exact questions. Before you fall in love with someone, you have to find out what makes you happy and how you want to be treated, then apply the same aspect towards that person. You have to please yourself the rest will follow. I hope this make sense. If you get heartbroken, then you know what to avoid in the future.

- Response by elbesims, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35

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yeah no kidding. i have no idea sometimes it feels like. It's like why bother? I know I answered your question with a question but that is because I dont have the answer. :\

- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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yeah no kidding. i have no idea sometimes it feels like. It's like why bother? I know I answered your question with a question but that is because I dont have the answer. :\

- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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yeah no kidding. i have no idea sometimes it feels like. It's like why bother? I know I answered your question with a question but that is because I dont have the answer. :\

- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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What is love????????????????
I deleted this word from my dictionary.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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That's a pretty big 'IF'. Why are you blaming love, when it's people who screw up relationships :)?

- Response by mssassychica, A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35, London, Executive

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We never find out if we don't go for it, do we? Have faith...

- Response by chichek, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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Love is basically a crap shoot.

But if you never step up to the table, place a bet and throw the dice....you are never going to win anything.

THAT'S the 'point'.

- Response by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Technical

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You have to believe...............

- Response by amazedbygrace, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I had 9 relationships before I found my now wife. It was worth the wait. One day it will happen to you. And every one of those failures taught me something about life, loss, and love.

- Response by falconf1, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Ottawa, Who Cares?

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it is fun while it lasts

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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I agree with u....I have had 2 long relationships which they both ended terribly...i would rather b all alone and just attempt to b happy all alone....

- Response by choozywife, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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What's the "point" of eating if we are just going to end up hungry again?

What's the point of sleeping if we know we are going to wake up?

Life is a series of experiences and love is arguably one of the most enjoyable. Each experience of love is something to enjoy and learn from. Applying the lessons from each relationship that didn't "work-out" will help to find the one that does.

If babies had the same state of minds as grown ups they'd never learn to walk. They'd try a few times and come to the conclusion that they "failed" and that they weren't meant to walk. Luckily even though they don't "know much" intellectually they still have a basic instinct that tells them that if the fall once or twice or 50 time it doesn't mean they are always going to fall. And because of that they learn to walk.

- Response by playhouse933, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 29-35, Other Profession

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The POINT is that you usually get great times out of it AND you learn more about who you are as a person and what you need/want. THEN when you finally fall in love with THE PERSON that fits you SO well, you know that it's all been WORTH the pain.

- Response by mlcoast2, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21

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Because it CAN work out.

And even if it doesn't, you can enjoy it while it lasts and learn from it.

- Response by mousepad, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Student

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you just have to find the right person for you. don't be with someone that you want to change or that you just settle for.

- Response by suekiss49, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Detroit, Who Cares?

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Awfully cynical for one so young, don't you think? Really, what experience do you have to say "it never works out?"

- Response by mikehug, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Cleveland

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Because it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.



- Response by raynonme, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45, Managerial

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yeah no kidding. i have no idea sometimes it feels like. It's like why bother? I know I answered your question with a question but that is because I dont have the answer. :\

- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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The point of falling in love is to make memories with that one special person that you may not make with another...even if it doesn't work out, there is always the memories they leave you with, no matter if they are good memories or bad memories, just the opportunity to love so freely and openly is enough of a 'reward'...:D

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Student

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People fall in love because they need companionship and because when you love someone inevitably you are taking a risk. Love is a risk it has its challenges but in order to fall in love you have to first know who you are and why you chose that person to share your life with. The funny thing is women who are too nice are usually taken advantage of and all the hurt stays for them. you need to up your game ste a criteria for yourself, choose a guy based on what you like and how he treats you. Dont throw things under the rug and expect problems to work out themselves. If you have a problem from the get go speak up and make it clear to your s/o. You will find someone who loves and appreciates you, just keep praying and it will happen when you least expect. but for now dont go looking for it just take time to love n appreciate yourself

- Response by allevia, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, Quebec, Hospitality

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hI DAZED,
FALLING in love is great.. and what every relationship takes is good communication and three ditinct in common ideals.. When you meet someone that is very kind and a good all around guy maybe you will think differently about "falling in love." Best wishes..think it ,, visualize it and obtain it.

Best of all to you!
Annk

- Response by annk, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Teaching

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There's a saying that goes, "it's better to love and lost, than never to have loved before." That means that it's really your journey that you must nuture. Falling and being in love brings so much joy and celebration to our lives. Without it, we would become hermits. It's this feeling that guides a couple to commit their lives to one another. Even if it doesn't work out all of the time, it INSPIRES HOPE. The same is true about when a woman has a child or children. So the point of falling in love is hoping that it will last, and then doing everything in your power to keep that feeling. When I was young like you, people would tell me to chase not after love or a lover. They said that." love will appear when you least expect it. Diana Ross and The Supremes sang a song called "You cannot Hurry Love." It went, "you cannot hurry love, no you'll just have to wait. Love don't come easy. It's a game of give and take." As for your statement that "it never works out," is that it really does. You're young, and things will get better and easier when you learn the rules of love.

- Response by rhunt0210, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Other Profession

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