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| Family & Parenting / 3:23 AM - Thursday November 05, 2009 |
I think I have just found my biological father online...I just randomly put in a search for his name and it lead me to a profile which shows his age and location (which matches up with what my mother has told me about him).
- Asked by mealeysgirl, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Student |
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This is going to be difficult either way, and you should be prepared for a disappointment, saying that then, what about just maybe asking him direct, include your mothers name and the dates that he knew her and let him know she has a daughter and your her, he should be able to draw his own conclusions about that eh? then see what happens, you may or may not get a reply but I think you know this already.. good luck mealeysgirl and let us know how you got on
- Response by glasgowbelle, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Glasgow, Retired
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Do some more investigation and have all your facts together before you approach him. But be forewarned that he might not want to meet you - he may have a wife and kids who know nothing about you, and want to keep it that way. This happened to a friend of mine who was adopted and went searching for her mother - once she found her, the lady wanted nothing to to with her because she didn't want her family to know that she'd had a baby out of wedlock in her teenage years. Wish you much success with this, and hope it turns out in your favor.
- Response by experience101, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?
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This is quite an opportunity for you if it turns out as you suspect!!
- Response by mert40, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 66 or older, Retired
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If you are going to do it - then do it! Be direct and adult about it. Yes, tell him why you are contacting him and most important include that you are over 18, for obvious reasons.
- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Consulting
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Do what your heart desires. You must be ready for whatever he may say to you though. Dont have great expectations... I wish you the best of luck! You have nothing to lose. Just stay cool and calm.
- Response by rosybarreto, A Married Girl, Female, 56-65, Teaching
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Find out more first, so you don't get a let down, if it's not him. Then ask the question.
- Response by lifestyle, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Houston
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I was in your situation a couple of years ago. I emailed and said "If you lived in "such and such" city in a given year and knew my mother "so and so" I would like to correspond. I sent that email out on a Sunday night and Monday morning had a response. I wish you all the best. If you want to correspond, don't hesitate to private message me.
- Response by livestolaugh, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Managerial
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I would find out more about him first. Ask his full name and birthday from your mom, ask her things that only the two of them would know.. then bring it up to him. Good luck and let us know :)
- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21
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Now that would be an e-mail to find in your e-mail box!! Personally, I would probably try to find out more. You also want to be pretty sure it is the right guy. Did you talk to your Mom about it? I'm sure she could give you some suggestions. Does he live in your state? That is a hard one though, because perhaps you can't find out any 'new' info about the man? what would I do? I think I'd be too chicken to write him. I suppose if I were quite sure it were him, I might in time send him some kind of e-mail that says, hello my name is so and so and was wondering if you happen to of known a person named, "your mom's name?" I think he'll get the gist. Be prepared though, his response could be good, but it might also not be what you want or he may not even respond. Who knows if the e-mail is still even valid?
- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?
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