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Invited a co-worker to a birthday party
Career / 9:46 AM - Friday November 06, 2009

Invited a co-worker to a birthday party

A few of my co-workers are having a birthday party for one of the secretaries at work. I asked another secretary if she wanted to come. When I did she did not respond in any way, she sat there at her desk looking at me. I started feeling uncomfortable and I told her if she wanted to come, let me know. I then walked away.

In the past, if I invited someone to a social event people would either tell me they were coming or say they had already made plans and they couldn't come. I've never had anyone to sit and stare at me until I left.

I can't read her mind but do you think she simply did not want to attend and couldn't think of a good excuse of why she couldn't come?

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My guess is that she felt angry/hurt that no one planned a birthday party for her and so she doesn't WANT to attend, but instead of saying what she truly thought/felt, she said nothing.

- Response by carinabay, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Lawyer

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I would guess she didn't have a ready excuse. I assume she's someone you talk to regularly enough that it'd not be weird for you to invite her? I suppose that's a weird way to handle it but you handled your end properly and just walked away...

- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?

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That is EXACTLY what I was going to say! Or maybe she was about to sneeze...nah. lol She could have been trying to figure out what she was going to wear.

- Response by firechick, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Portland, Celebrity

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I would have just said let me know if you are coming and moved on. You invited her and its up to her to either accept or reject. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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She might be in the middle of a fight with the other secretary.
Could be upset no one threw a party for her, though her birthday is just past or the same day.
she might be going through someting major that has nothing to do wih you, her or work: Had a coworker who's brother died, was basically walking around in shock, wouldn't say why, till someone called a family member and found out why.

- Response by jjcabin, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Technical

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SHE COuld hAVE DISLIKED THE pERSON THE PARTY WAS FOR

- Response by duggers, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older

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