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My husband just left me here at my moms on a friday night...i was bringing my daughter out 2 the car
Married Life / 2:30 AM - Saturday November 07, 2009

my husband just left me here at my moms on a friday night...i was bringing my daughter out 2 the car

and he left!!! what an ass,,,he wont answer his phone and i dont know where he is at!!!! OMG im so sad right now and so pissed he just left and left us here...i HATE him so much!!!!

Update: November 09, 2009.
For some of you who asked.. Its both of our daughter. He does this at least once a month...besides that he fucks with my head. I love my daughter and im trying to stay strong for her. Shes my everything! I dont understand how he could be so fucked up to me. When we got married 3 years ago i fixed his papers for him to stay here...the process is not done. He was never like this before untill recently when we came back from Colorado 6 months ago. I have been living like this for 6 months and i swear im here like a dumbass working, cooking and washing his clothes and attending his every need. I know he is using me and its sad how a Man can be that fucked up to someone i really feel that im losing my head. I cant think straight and the only time i smile its with my daughter.

- Asked by lbgal13, A Married Girl, Female, 22-25, Self-Employed

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Well, I can see why you would be p.o.d geeez, this happen often? maybe an argument...A good way to embarrass and humiliate. leave wife


and 2 yr old on the curb'.
u didnt ask for advice. I hope the venting helped.

when he comes back and he WILL. there would definitely be some serious talking when you arrived home. {HUGS ] to u and little girl

- Response by dreamspinner, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Chicago

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What a d*ck. I seldom understand why men do some of the things they do.

I guess until you know what's up just be glad you're not dealing with him for the time being...even if that's all the comfort you might have.

Good luck and chin up!

- Response by greenolive, An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, Indianapolis, Hospitality

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MY lady it sounds like he might have another womwn in his life right now and I hope not or he just had a meltdown and needed some space to think but no phone calls or any communication is mind boggling. Isnt he thinking about what this is doing to the child as well as you!!!Still no excuse for leaving you two there and he just left. I would just wait to hear his excuse and if not accepted leave his butt there like he did you, dont go crawling back to him this is what he wants and if you do he will control you for the rest of your life, Never be taken for granted or be second to no-one ever just kick his butt to the curve and move on and make yourself a better life for that little girl that you have and take him to court and raked his ass!!

- Response by ptawillis, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Medical / Dental

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Reminds me of a time when my brother and his wife attended my grandmother's funeral. All of us were to stay at her former home. There was clearly enough room. But, for whatever the reason after the funeral was over, that evening my brother's (now ex-) wife wanted to go home...and go home NOW. There was no discussing matters with her. My brother tried. BUT, the woman just walked out of the house, into the car, and began to down the street....not to be seen or heard from for several hours. She would eventually return to the scene of her crime, pick my brother up....and leave immediately again.

To this day...we never understood her immature motives....

Good Luck

AngllHugnU2

- Response by angllhugnu2, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Administrative

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you post few days ago he has a mistress no??????? why you don't call her number and talk to him since he is phone is off??

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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What is the question?

You say "my daughter" - is she the daughter of your husband?
He is hurting, too.

is the question: How do we make up?

How do I regain the relationship that made our marriage?

Can we change life relationship for the better? ... for the long term? [[The answer is YES.]]

- Response by lovebookauthor, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Self-Employed

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and, of course: the way to change things for the better is NOT to accept such abuse - for your self or your daughter.

I can see "another woman" jumps to mind - you (the plural you - all 3 of you) are in a situation of REAL NEED OF CHANGE.



- Response by lovebookauthor, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Self-Employed

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sounds like you guys just disconnected about you wanting to stay there....

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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talk about a hint leaving you at your mothers

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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When he comes home, as I'm sure he will, let the sight of all his things in the front lawn be what he sees.

If he wants to leave that much, let the coward STAY gone!

- Response by A Player, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?

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Your emotions are normal and completely understandable. He is obviously unhappy with your relationship. My first guess is that he is seeing someone else. Leaving his daughter is despicable. He will probably call you asking for forgiveness. You should think long and hard about this. His actions show that he doesn't care about your feelings. Be careful here and don't rush into anything.

- Response by kegofed, A Couch Potato, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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Sweetheart, you are WAY too young to be going through this. Why are you even married to this asshole? I mean seriously???? What a jerk. He's obviously not in any frame of mind, mentally or emotionally to be a husband. Please find a good divorce attorney, file for divorce and get rid of him. I know, at your age, you think if you just hang in there he's going to change. He's not. Get a divorce, child support and spend some time just getting yourself together then MAYBE think about dating. You don't need a man, you need to take care of your daughter and yourself. You daughter is the mot important thing right now and should be for many years to come. Don't let her grow up thinking his behavior is ok. I'm a family law legal assistant. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. Get rid of him, take care of your daughter and love yourself. All good things will come in time. In the meantime, get rid of the asshole. You deserve better, truly you do.

- Response by diznykd, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Executive

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change the locks, and dont look back. You are young. Be strong for your daughter.
You could report him to the INS and or just dont look in the review mirror.
Ask your mom to help with your daughter. Trade days babysitting with a family who
you trust and has kids same age so you can have a life and save your pennies..
do things for yourself. a leopard does not change its spots. You deserve more, kick him to the curb and dont bother letting him explain .....again.. take care..

- Response by nbtt, A Sportif, Female, 36-45, Body Work

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