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I have a friend who only calls me when she is overwhelmed. What is this all about ?
Friendship / 4:27 AM - Saturday November 07, 2009

I have a friend who only calls me when she is overwhelmed. What is this all about ?

Most of my friends talk to me on a regular basis but one only calls when she is at the end of her rope.

- Asked by lonelytxguy47, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Dallas, Other Profession

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Sounds like she trusts your advice, but does not value your friendship, and only has time for you when she is in trouble. You must see a problem with this treatment or you woul not be posting this question.
You are stuck in the friend zone, and when she is busy gettin into the trouble she asks your advice to deal with, she is too busy getting into that trouble to worry about talking to you. You have to decide if you are willing to elp her on her terms, and continue to give advice when she wants it, and to be ignored when she is looking ofr that trouble. Maybe if your not available the next couple times she needs help, her attitude may change. Probably not, so figure out what you are willing to deal with to stay in contact.

- Response by wolverinesegg, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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ahhh, watch out for her, those are the ones who exhaust you,
take advantage of your kindness and in general they become
*toxic friends*.
I had one like that for years until I told her repeatedly that I was busy and on my way out, She finally disappeared.
whoa, my life went back to normal.

argie

- Response by argie, A Creative, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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It sounds like she may have a negative personality. Some questions that come to mind are: are you the only one who says this about her and is it possible to steer her into a more positive outlook? She may a wonderful person. She just needs someone to encourage her to be more social. That's a problem I have.

- Response by johnbo, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

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sounds like she doesn't consider you a great friend, just a fall back guy.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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