Dating / 1:25 PM - Saturday November 07, 2009

i need to no the best way to get my ex boyfriend back

i need to have him back the amount of love i have for him just cant be let go. i need full complete steps of what to do that will make him come back. i think he still loves me but just not as much as he did. i need him i love him to much to lose him.

p.s dont respond if your going to say something stupid i dont need that thanks.

- Asked by ashleybby123, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, New York

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the only thing you can do is talk to him and see what is going on.

if he doesn't want you back, there is nothing you can do. you can tell him how you feel and that you love him deeply and that you want him.

i suggest give him time to process what you say, if you take that route. of course we all can't help you that much, since we don't know why you guys broke up.

good luck!

- Response by nationalguardwife04, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Medical / Dental

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Honey, you cannot chain a soul. You cannot "do" anything to "make" someone love you the way you love them. There are no "steps" to take. I'm so sorry.

I do understand the pain. I've been there. :(

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Seattle

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Oh honey I have been trying to do this for years and finally got him to say he wants to work it out. First, tell him how you feel truly and that you want to do whatever it takes to work it out. If that doesn't work then let him go. I know that is harsh but it worked for me. In this time frame, no contact with him. Don't try to be his friend because that will just kill you slowly. If he truly loves you then he won't let you go. Maybe he needs time to be ready. I don't know why you are broken apart now but maybe that is it. Good luck honey!

- Response by debski, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Detroit, Science / Engineering

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Well, one thing I've learned is that the guys I don't really care to get back with are the ones that won't leave me alone. So one thing you should do is back off... even if your heart is breaking and you are aching to talk to him, text him, or whatever.... DON'T!! Play it very cool. Don't contact him at all. Let him contact you. If and when he does contact you, keep it light and playful, the way you were when you first started dating. Let him see you are strong and aren't desperate for him (BIG turnoff).

Then just give it a little time. Don't push things and make him wonder a bit. If it's meant to be, he'll come around. Good luck sweetie!!

- Response by truesugar110, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35

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ONe of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that we cannot control what others do.

You can't force this issue. You can only be the best person you can be. Yes, it's painful and consuming and exhausting, and at your young age, you will go through this many more times, and ask this over and over. You WILL adjust and learn how to cope with it as eons of the women before you have. best wishes.

- Response by nysbikergirl, An Alternative Girl, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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