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All women say this, but never hold up their end of the bargain.
Sex & Intimacy / 1:53 PM - Friday November 20, 2009

All women say this, but never hold up their end of the bargain.

Morning turns into: I'm tired, I'm not fresh, my breath smells.

Evening turns into: I'm tired, I'm too drunk, can we just cuddle.

I call BOLLSHEEET.

- Asked by Male, 29-35

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completely agree!

or the switch-a-roo...the animal who wants it 5 times a day...then as the relationship progresses, slowly dwindles down to once a month.

- Response by jackstraw, A Life of the Party, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Do you know why the bargain in unfulfilled most of the time? It's because of what some of us men do in marriages.

Let us take a look at our average married couple, and let us focus on the man first. If you take heed of how he treated his now wife when they first met, it is completely different. He basically treated her like a queen to get into those panties. Now as time goes on, his romantic gestures begin to slowly deplete. When marriage become reality, most men think that sex is guaranteed with no work -- and that is when a woman sex drive depletes significantly. I mean, she does not feel special anymore, and that is our fault.

Now, it is not always a man's fault. I have heard and seen women that trick men into marriage with sex (weird, I know), and after the marriage is in writing, she cannot even spell the world "sex." That's when you can say it's "bollsheeet." However, for the most part, that isn't the case. It's usually the case of us guys being too lazy to romance our wives.

- Response by holidaystyles, A Career Man, Male, 22-25, Philadelphia, Student

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What's worse is when the desire is there on both sides but you cannot find the privacy. Can't tell you how many times we've locked ourselves inthe bathroom for a quickie hoping the kids wouldn't miss us for a few minutes. LOL

- Response by youngfuddyduddy, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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one thing i will admit is thats no matter how horney i am it's hard to want to get busy with a guy that's let himself go.... over weight and bad hygiene are two ways to kill the mood....

- Response by coco, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45, Charlotte, Technical

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there's usually a reason for that, women that liked sex at one time are not now suddenly hating it. there's a reason.

- Response by beanielou, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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HAHAHAHAHA!

- Response by TheSshhmoe, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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I have read so many post of women with high sex drives. Until I feel cheated. I don't know why some females are like hot tamales. now , i read your post where you have apparently experienced otherwise. if one is not high sex drive, why would they say it?

- Response by A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Chicago

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All aspects of a Relationship change as time goes on; whether that's for the Good or Bad depends on two primary factors:
1-They built their 'relationship' on sexual intimacy and failed to develop real emotional connections or secure the proper foundation early on.

OR

2-They both stopped trying with the same amount of effort that kept the sex rolling in the beginning. Her lingerie & coquettish flirting becomes T-shirts & gabbing on the phone with her girlfriends/family. His nights of lighting candles and just talking to her before sex turns into beer belching and grunting until he's ready to get his quickie. Of course this is okay sometimes as it's normal to be comfortable. There's a certain intimacy in that alone BUT it can easily slide down that slippery slope of becoming "let yourself go" and that's not Okay, ever.


Now, number 2 can be overcome with some effort by both. If they have the foundation of friendship, respect and no one is cheating, then they can ramp it back up by being more cognizant of the decline and taking preventative measures.

Number 1 on the other hand is far more common and can rarely e fixed. Humping too soon and like rabbits in the beginning has more harm than 'making you look easy' which seems to be the concern. The real harm is that it takes away from a clear view of who the other person is OUTSIDE the bedroom and prevents true bonding of the emotions and mind. All of that is neglected because there's all the 'new' sex going on & for awhile, that's enough. BUT it's not enough to sustain a relationship when the new wears off and you find yourself sitting at a table with a stranger, with nothing to say. So people must protect from having sex with people before they have a foundation (unless that's all they agree they want).

With a Foundation built on reality with sex as the dessert, not the meat, it will rarely become this "I'm too tired, I have a Headache" deal.

*Holiday has a good point too--keep the role going gentleman to keep the legs open. Lol*

- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?

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Yeah, right. Why don't you just ask the (former) bf who turned whom down?

- Response by carinabay, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Lawyer

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don't criticize me when you don't know me: in response to what you said...breath mint please, if I can masturbate at that time how much better would it be with a man, um I rarely drink, and for me tired doesn't mean NO sex it just means vanilla sex or a quickie...

- Response by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?

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bollsheet? haha!
I Heard that women's sex drives go up when they get older. But I could be wrong and that is not always with every women.



- Response by ellekassia26, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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They always find excuse to refuse sex.

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Other Profession

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LMAO @ bollsheet :)). Ok i've never been married but from what I read on here and hear about through the grapevine, this seems to be true. For some reason I hear the sex goes wayyyy down once you get married. Probably because it's legal or some shit who knows haha

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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I agree. She's also young and probably doesn't have kids yet. Most women are ready for anything at her age. Once she gets older, gets married, and has kids, it's all over for her future husband.

- Response by newdad, A Jock, Male, 29-35, Las Vegas, Transportation

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When a female does it, its called "COWSHIT"

Few females want sex in the morning. The best time is after work, before dinner. She's sober and horny. Don't wait till bedtime, by then she's too tired and so are you.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction

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Morning sex is the best way to start your day! Who cares about bad breath just get it from behind, your faces aren't even by each others.

- Response by pretend, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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The one thing that you are 'assuming' here is that 'all' women are like this...unfortunately, it's not all women but women who not only work all day long but come home and have to do housework, take care of children and the husband and the husband comes home and just waits for supper and then relaxes...fortunately, I have a man who helps me every now and then and just those few minutes of helping put the dishes away or putting the children to bed helps a lot and I'm in the mood for him every night and the mornings are always our time as well because we realize that with parenthood, comes responsibilities and we always try to make time for 'us' before starting our day...so it's not all women because I actually enjoy the mornings and nights with him...:D

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Edmonton, Student

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I think I may have an answer for you...unlike most mens magazines,cosmo and othe r current media... women are verrrrrrrrrrry individualistic....
I do not think seriously you can group us together and say anything with any validity by generalizing...

Generalizations is usually what gets alot of hguys off track in the first place... All women like oral,anal or blah blah blah...That my dear is Bollsheet... And just like you guys we have different moods based on
day to day pressures from family,inlaws,jobs and kids...
When you are dating you make alot of time to prep yourselves and get in the mood to go out...dressing nice,makeup,touching and holding all lead up to putting a gal in the mood ....Rolling into bed after an a stressful day of bills,exes or job pressures doesn't put either of you
in the same frame of mind like an evening stroll on the beach and some laughs...
In the beginning of a relationship you are both more likely to focus on each other as time rolls on other things crowd in...and soon one or they other of you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ay down the list... It happens with the best of couples...Having a close and warm conversation letting them know you miss that closeness will go alot further than shreeking "I hardly get any ...anymore~~~!" Like everything else it is all in the presentation annnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn nnd follow up... Whatever turned her on before will again....but timing is important and paying close attention to helping her reduce her stress and daily responsibilities will go alot further than a stiffie in her back at midnight~~~

- Response by lady4u, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Cincinnati, Managerial

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I couldn't answer your question better than holidaystyles.

- Response by troublemaker, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 26-28, Administrative

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Since ALL MEN are only after one piece of ass at the moment, what difference does it make if you get a repeat performance?? You'll all only go out and cheat anyway, after all that is what ALL MEN do....

CHECK MATE.

- Response by iowaczechartist, A Trendsetter, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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