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All the boys like the girls who dress real skanky and give it up on the first date.
Dating / 9:09 PM - Saturday January 30, 2010

All the boys like the girls who dress real skanky and give it up on the first date.

I tried this a few times and just felt bad about myself afterwards, and it never lasted anyways. What should I do? Please be nice, I am already sad tonight.

- Asked by Female, 22-25

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What should you do? You need to realize that what you thought would work by conforming didn't. You should also realize that you're talking about "boys." Real men don't like women because they dress skanky and give it up on the first date. Maybe, to have sex with. But, it will not be for a serious relationship that lasts. Why would you allow what other men do make you become something you're not. Why don't you just be yourself and not settle for a man that's not the type of person you want? What did you think would happen when you gave in, that they'd fall madly in love with you, or that you'd be no more important to them than the "girls who dress real skanky and give it up on the first date?

- Response by thelovedovefor1, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?

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You yourself have already discovered that this approach never works. Just be you!

No one wants to seriously date someone that looks easy or gives it up so fast. Be worth making the effort for and you'll attract a guy of quality who'll want you in his life. Good Luck!

- Response by destinyseeker, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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Let the past be the past. Your future begins at this very moment. Don't beat yourself up, over mistakes that were made. It's only a F*** Up, if you repeat it, rather than learning from it. It appears that, you have gotten on the right track. I think that you realize that there is no point in doing something, if it makes you feel sad. All boys like skanky girls, but only for that moment. You can't build a loving relationship on a one night stand. Fall in love first, with someone who actually knows and loves you, before you give it up. If a guy doesn't want to wait, then his motive is to just use you. If you look skanky, you will attract only skanky men. Try a more classy persona, and perhaps you will meet a mature man and not just a boy who is a skin hound. Be true to yourself, first and you won't fail.
Forgive yourself and best of luck to you. You have many years left, to meet the man of your dreams.

- Response by nautalady, A Trendsetter, Female, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Other Profession

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look for someone who wants more from you than just an easy lay. You have to respect yourself first, then other will respect you. And the ones who don't, kick their ass to the curb and move on.

- Response by lavender, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, San Francisco

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First off, stop going after "boys".

- Response by lovingmistahj, An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25

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Decent guys like respectable women not "skanky" ones. We all want it but will take our time with the right girl. Respect yourself and do only what you feel comfortable doing. You will be respected for that by guys who have some values and you will have more fun in the long run.

- Response by mrwondering11, A Creative, Male, Who Cares?, Portland, Managerial

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Don't be sad,you can allways talk to me.don't put out and really take your time and if that really like you then that will wait.

- Response by bebekitti, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35, Home Maker

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Try dating guys at a higher maturity level, although there are guys who are 40 who are still immature.

Be true to yourself and be happy with yourself.

- Response by chessplayer, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Administrative

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You are right.This is not how it should be.Follow your own feelings and when you come to a guy who is interested in you and not sex then you will find your way of life.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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I don't know about boys and girls.

Men enjoy women who dress properly and are no longer playing stupid teenage games about sex.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Construction

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To look at this thread, it would seem that all males are supposed to love fugly women who don't have sex and dress like they're Quakers. ;)

And of course, there are several fugly women on the thread who are taking advantage of this sort of notion in order to make themselves feel like "steak" as opposed to "cheap hamburger." ;)

Seriously, you will be ready for an adult relationship when you discard stupid terms like "skank" and "not-skank" and instead focus on interests and humane attributes.

Note that the huge majority of the males who posted on this thread are not, by the above definition, ready for an adult relationship; a lot of them are older than 40. It's sad, but don't let them make you like them.



- Response by electragold21, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, New York, Teaching

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Personality wins me over any day. I see through s skank

- Response by duggers, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older

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why not just enjoy life and do what ever u want to do

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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Perhaps a good dose of reality and self-respect just might be the ticket. It seems that young people all they focus on is sex! How shallow! Why not focus on education for yourself, helping someone that needs help. Self-centered, selfish, arrogant, and egostistical are the best description of today's youth. Pathetic!

- Response by omontecristo, A Career Man, Male, 29-35, Philadelphia, Medical / Dental

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No, they only like their cheap attitudes. but they respect the girls who keep themselves away from all that provocativeness.

- Response by cristyquartz, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Managerial

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they dont actually like them .. they like that its easy poon. Trust me they dont even remember those chicks in the morning.

- Response by cocolover82, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35

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the guys who only go out with skanky girls are dumb. no easy way to put this. just be yourself, you're more likely to get a good guy instead of some guy who only wants to get with you.

- Response by vampirexxgirl, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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