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How do I tell my bf that I just want a break? Help PLZ!!
Dating / 8:12 AM - Thursday July 22, 2010

How do I tell my bf that I just want a break? Help PLZ!!

Heyy I've been thinking and I just don't want a boyfriend right now. But plz don't be mad at me because I do like you it's just that I don't want a relationship right now  So is it okay with u if we take a month-long break?

I think that^ is too mean. but that's basically how I feel. School starts in a month and I just want a break! How would u tell him? Thank you so much !!!=)

- Asked by Female, 18-21

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You can't just tell someone who loves you that you'd like for them to stay away for a month and that they can come back into your life whenever it suits you. That's called having your cake and eating it to, and it doesn't work like that. You're being selfish. I'm assuming you're very young. If there's something you're not happy with about the relationship, you need to talk to him about it. If you don't want a boyfriend right now, thats totally understandable - but you need to be honest and just tell him. Tell him what you told us, and then take a break from dating if you need one. If its meant to work out, then the two of you will surely find eachother again later, when you're both ready and want it.

- Response by heavenonearth27, A Creative, Female, 26-28, Toronto

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You just need to be straight with him. Tell him things just aren't working out and you need some time for yourself.

You can do it nicely, but firmly. You are never obligated to stay with someone if you don't want to.

Might as well tell him how you feel instead of prolonging this.

- Response by mrscleaver16, A Married Girl, Female, 66 or older

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Perhaps just tell him you are feeling overwhelmed right now and with every thing that is going on you feel you need a lot of time to yourself . Let him know that you think a month will help you get back on track.

- Response by morningdust, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Self-Employed

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Feelings are never "wrong". As long as you do your best to be considerate when you tell him. It's better to be honest than to 'fake' having a good time or satisfy his needs when it might lead to resentment on your part.

There is nothing wrong with needing some time for yourself to get things done prior to returning to school. If it were me---I'd just choose a time and place that's nice, but rather neutral---perhaps a coffee shop, or just a sit down at the kitchen table. Don't make it into a "big production", just be straight forward and factual, but also allow him his reaction, whatever it might be. He might be hurt, angry, or perfectly fine, or even relieved! You just won't know until you talk.

- Response by ocelotspot, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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I admire you. Most young girls (I'm assuming you're a teen)don't even think about themselves and their well being, they think about pleasing their boyfriends more.
if you're feeling overwhelmed or just not in the mood to be with a boyfriend it's perfectly okay to tell him so. he might be disappointed but I think he'll be glad you told him the truth.
if you think what you have there is mean, say it like this:

Hey I've been thinking, I need a break from our relationship. School is starting in a month and I need to focus on myself right now. I think you are a great guy and I really like you and I hope we can still be friends. but I just need a break. Hope you're not too upset but I need to do this for myself.

- Response by girlpower08, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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Every woman wants Mr. Right at the right time for him, but you don't want boyfriend because he's not MR.-RIGHT-FOR-YOU. That's all there is to it; and that's all you need to tell him.

- Response by thedaimler2006, An Alternative Girl, Female, 56-65, Atlanta, Self-Employed

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Tell him exactly like you told us. Hey, school starts in a month and I just want a break! Or, school starts in a month, how bout we take a break from each other & get ready for another 9 months!
You not doing it to him - you're doing for you, because obviously you need it. And that's okay, even if it seems selfish!
Best Wishes.

- Response by elevatorup, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?

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Don't be upset when he runs off and screws some girl... That is what happens when a person asks for a break. They think they are goingto run off and have a little fun on the side, but then get up set when the person who they wanted a break from goes out and does what they wanted to in the first place.

- Response by juandontbeg, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Self-Employed

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tell him the truth and hope he understands how you are feeling.
why try to hide things from him and hurt, possibly, both of you if you do not tell him.
JUST BE UP FRONT AND TRUTHFUL WITH A BIT OF TACT!

- Response by amandasboy, A Father Figure, Male, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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tell him in the exact way you just wrote here. keep in mind that you will have no recourse if durring the break he hooks up with another girl.

- Response by guy5432, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, New York, Who Cares?

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hi dear! when you llove some thing u get it if not leav it. u love your man then dont think of break up. ul give braek, are you sure he will come bak after the break?? think!!!!!!!! but dnt ever conclude giving an break!

- Response by lakshmilake51, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Bangalore

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