My boyfriend 'technically' chose another girl over me...what should I do??
My boyfriend has this friend (he's known her for 2 years)..they used to hang out a lot and he used to like her but that's all in the past and they are just friends (according to him)..they hang out and talk a little now.
This has caused tension between my boyfriend because I don't feel comfortable with them being friends because he 'used to like her and was going to start going out with her'. I just get a weird vibe about her. He did say he would cut ties with her (a few months ago) but back then I told him I didn't want that. About a month ago, this situation caused us to 'take a brake'. During this time, I asked him..why don't you just let her go?..and he said it was because they were just friends.
Honestly, I wouldn't feel right forcing him to let her go- I would feel too controlling. I could never go through with that. But it's the fact that he didn't offer, that's bugging me now.
I feel like I'm the only one who had to compromise. Just after we got back together, he told me that he thought I was going to break up with him. I asked him, what would he have done? and he said, he would have basically accepted it because that's what I wanted. He would have walked away?..What?!?!
That bugs me...that even when we were going to break up, he wasn't willing to compromise or offer to end that friendship..nothing. Basically choosing her over us. We've been going out for almost 2 yrs...and I've known him so much longer than her (8 yrs)...I kinda feel like I should have priority. And, other than this issue, we are so in love...planning marriage in the future etc.
And what's going to happen when we get married?? I'm still not going to want to hang out with her...and would have to put my foot down about him hanging out with her too. I mean, if your married and you want to hang out with another woman while your wife removes herself from that situation- that doesn't sound good. I feel it's kinda cheating...or, at least, on the road to it.
any advice?...should I bring this up to him again?
- Asked by Female, 26-28