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My friend fucked my husband. She wants to be friends, I want her gone. What do I do?
Sex & Intimacy / 3:57 AM - Sunday October 09, 2011

My friend fucked my husband. She wants to be friends, I want her gone. What do I do?

My best friend lied to me and manipulated my husband because she wanted to have a threesome with him and her husband. I was considering a soft swap. I've already worked it through with my husband. She tried to repair the friendship but it's more akward than ever, and I just want her gone. The thing is that we're in a volunteer organization together so I can't just tell her to die in a fire. How can I tell her to get out of my life so that she understands it and knows that I mean it and not just "having a bad day"?

Update: October 09, 2011.
Just FYI. The husband didn't get off scott-free and wasn't completely at fault. We've repaired that (professional marriage counselling was used) so he isn't my issue. My so-called friend is the advice I'm looking for, but thanks for your replies about him when I wasn't asking for it.

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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I dont understand why you are so confused about how to tell her that you don't want anything to do with her?

She was your friend.. she fucked your husband.. betrayed your trust.

JUST TELL HER..

say LOOK HOMEWRECKER.. We were cool.. then you fucked my husband.. so now I want you to stay away from me and my family. When you get the urge to speak to me.. know that I am fighting the urge to punch you in the throat.

I think that will clear it up!

Dont worry about her feelings, or how you say it.. she didn't care about you when she was with your husband. Just say it!

- Response by socalsweet, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Teaching

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Tell her you don't deal with liars.The friendship is over.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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Work it out with your hubby and leave the woman alone!

- Response by premium234, A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Los Angeles

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B-but, your hubby likes "strange"... What about him?

- Response by mikegeeboyd, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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Did she have a gun to your husband's head or something? Why is he getting off the hook so easy? I'm glad I'm not in your situation. Sorry that you are. I would probably tell BOTH of them to get lost. But if you only want to get rid of the friend, then tell her straight up that you don't need friends who sleep with your husband behind your back. Ask her to never contact you again. And I would seriously consider getting into a new volunteer group if I were you. Wouldn't want to be around her.

- Response by silver75, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Stockholm, Other Profession

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easy... tell her to stay away from ur husband or your going to beat the fuck out of her ... she will not bother you again either ..lol i know this from experince my co worker and i were friends and he and his wife decided to have a open relationship and she wanted to do me and she even ask for his approval and he told her and me to go for ...i was drunk .. but never the less she fucked me for three hours and came loudly a lot ... next day my co worker decided that it was a mistake after listening i guess and told me it wasnt going to happen that he would kill me and slap the teeth out of her..so i dont bother him anymore even though i am his boss..lol ..

- Response by realtreejoetoatinga223, A Life of the Party, Male, 29-35, Administrative

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Your poor husband, manipulated like that, I bet he didnt even enjoy it did he? bless him....You have been let down badly by BOTH of the people who you trusted, but your husband had more reason to be faithful to you...

- Response by rumloverreturns, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Glasgow, Other Profession

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Drama City...guess a restraining order if you really really want her to know how serious you are.

- Response by hwyrider, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Retired

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If u r going to be mad at anyone be mad at your husband not the friend

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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