Sometimes. If I can be a help to someone who need a temporary favor, fine. But, if my help will be a hindrance to someone who simply is living irresponsibly, I have to give tough love and let them handle it; because they'll ALWAYS use you as the solution to their problems.
And, before you know it, what was supposed to be help, has now turned into a burden. You're stressed and feeling used up. So, I believe it's important to know which you're actually doing.
Usually, unspoken needs I help with if I can. It shows they are trying to work on things themselves. So, there's not a lot of chance they'll keep needing you for everything.
- Response by thelovedovefor1
, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Who Cares?