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Is she interested? Another 3 For All...
Intimacy (Rated-PG) / 4:26 PM - Thursday July 08, 2004

Is she interested? Another 3 For All...

Ok a girl I am trying to date more seriusly keeps cancelling our dates even though we have lots of fun chatting online or on the phone. I met her online btw.

We had one date which was pretty good, we talked a lot more on the trip home, and kind of winged the date, but it wasn't bad. She cancelled my two next offers because of rain, then the fourth offer for a second date she cancelled for a long trip out of country. In all this time we've talked a lot online, however she never says 'hi' to me or starts the chat, I do on an online chat thingie....so I asked her if she'd like to do something when she got back and she said sure she'd call me when she got back....she didn't and i asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend and she said she's see. anyways it's been a month or so since the first date and i am really really really thinking she likes my personality/mind but is not physically attracted to me. if a girl likes a guy she'll make time for him right? can i subtly or bluntly ask her if this is the case? or do i have enough clues already...what do you think?

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 18-21, Toronto

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Wheni give a guy a kiss on the neck and i ask him to come inside that means only one thing that i like him and i want him... Now you have to get the things staright is she with you and others or only you. Just go for it really she wants you...

- Response by Purpleaggies, A Player, Female, 26-28, Miami, Administrative

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Wheni give a guy a kiss on the neck and i ask him to come inside that means only one thing that i like him and i want him... Now you have to get the things staright is she with you and others or only you. Just go for it really she wants you...

- Response by Purpleaggies, A Player, Female, 26-28, Miami, Administrative

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I hate to be blunt. But in this case I can't think of anything else to say except she doesn't want to date you. Whether it's a chemistry thing or a physical thing doesn't really matter. She's not the type to tell you straight out so she does it by not contacting you. If she wanted to talk to you or spend time with you she would at least initiate conversations. You have all the clues you need. Just don't contact her again unless you hear from her first. Also, I don't know the frequency you contact her with but a lot of women get turned off by guys always calling or e-mailing or IM'ing.

- Response by A Life of the Party, Male, 29-35, Los Angeles, Science / Engineering

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Women just like men will make time for the things that they want. I have been having this similar issue lately but, she seems to want to get together. She is a busy person so I partially believe it but, she has broken about 8 dates and all had very good reasons and I know they were true. Just ask her bluntly but, don't put her on the defensive.

- Response by HangingAround, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 26-28, Chicago

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Dude, a broken date is a cardinal sin. You should have given her the boot after the first cancelled date, you would have saved yourself a lot of time and stress. This girl is not interested in you. When a girl likes you, she actually wants to be with you. Walk away, before she loses all respect for you.

- Response by svtjake, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 22-25, Edmonton

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Let's look at it this way:

She canceled at least three times.

She says she'll call, but doesn't.

You ask her, and she says "she'd see."

She doesn't initate contact with you - you have to.

Sounds to me like she doesn't really care for you, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. You might try not contacting her at all and see how long it takes for her to contact you. I'm betting she won't.

- Response by twosixletters, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Seattle, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I think she's probably not. But, at least you are figuring this out now before you make a big commitment to her. It'll suck for a while, but you've only know her for a month.

- Response by lucy5446, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Pittsburgh, Technical

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Your problem is that you have chats with her!!! If you would shut your yap on the phone or online she would have to date you to talk to you. she is no longer interested in you romantically because you screwed it up!

- Response by jcshell56, A Rebel, Male, 18-21, Denver, Self-Employed

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