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I'm going crazy gerrrrr

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:54:27 GMT

Its been 3 days seance i was asked to move in with my best friend - lover and 2 days seance he asked me out. Now i know you must be thinking that where moving to fast and all but we have been friends and have had strong feelings for each other for 4 years. So I know where not moving that fast in some way's but that's not why i am writing this. Why I am writing this is cause i can't stop thinking about him. I can't actually be with him for about another week or a little more and all I can do is think about him nonstop. And i can't sleep because of it its driving me crazy what do I do ?

Why aren't Asian men attracted to me?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:26:32 GMT

Does anyone else have this problem? I am an Asian woman and I seem to always attract white guys. My friend thinks it is because I look different- I have dark hair and blue eyes. Asian men don't seem to approach me and I don't know why because I am an asian also. Why don't asian guys want me? :(

Do Guys Prefer Assertive Women or Passive Women Like Me?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:24:01 GMT

In September, I saw a guy who I'm very attracted to. For the first time in my life, I told a man that I find him attractive and I flirted like crazy. Well, we went on our first date, and I continued to tell him that I like him and want to see him, etc.

We started seeing each other; the problem is, two weekends ago I was at his apartment, I fixed a romantic dinner and he rented a movie; I believe he was about to make a move and I nutted up - got scared, became frigid, got stiff, didn't know what to do! He immediately jumped up off the sofa and went to clean up the kitchen, a definite signal he wanted me to leave. The next day we were talking and I asked if we were going to the game and he said sure why not, we're not going to do anything anyway, might as well go to the game.

See, I'm not naturally assertive; he is the only man I've ever come on to and somehow, I reverted back to my shy, reserved self the other night. Now, I don't know if I can repair it!

I think he liked the confident person I was pushing myself to be, but that's not really me. I only did that because I said to myself, the passive way hasn't worked, let me try this.

I think I messed up. We had been talking every night; he hasn't called me at night since then. We still talk, but not often and he is distant.

I still want to be with him, I just don't know how to fix this. HELP!

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Sat, 21 Nov 2009 06:55:52 GMT

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How to make internet dating safe

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:45:23 GMT

I've met a guy on an online dating site. He seems really great but there is so much out there to be worried about. I know couples who have met online and its working out well so I want to be open minded enough to give it a try but I want to know your opinions on how to do it as safely as possible.

Help!

I wish I had a couple of good dating advisers when he was dating me. Then maybe he'd still be here.

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 03:02:23 GMT

I do blame myself. I realize that I made a small incident big that turned him off. I could've phrased something properly but didn't think it over. I realize there were warning signs and didn't ask what's going on or if something was bothering him.

We had a great valentines, he took me to dinner at a fancy place, I gave him a nice gift. He took me to the movies and paid for them. I treated him to a concert. I thought we had good conversations and got along well.

I was always available to him mainly because it was winter and I work from home, it was easy to be homey and not plan for much. But I do have my hobbies and interests, which he knows about.

One night, we were playing with my dog whom I called my boy and he asked me if he could be my boy too. I said yes. At that point, I thought, you know...3 months, did he just confirm he's my boyfriend? That made my night.

Two weeks later we had an incident. I should remember not to demand an answer. When he abruptly changed plans an hour before a date to go riding with his buddies, I should've said something instead of just 'okay'. When he apologized by text message next day, I should've called him to ask what happened instead replying to his text 'yes honey I was disappointed. call me when youre free, you have some explaining to do."

He posted on his myspace that he's divorcing his wife after that. I knew it was meant for me. He didn't call back. For 2 months. I didn't reach out to him either. Two stubborn people.

We met again after 2 months, he contacted and invited me to dinner. He wanted to apologize that time but I didn't let him. I didn't want to get emotional after not seeing him that I asked if we could just enjoy dinner and talk about it some other time. Wrong move again on my part. I should've let him speak his mind and just kept my chin up.

I should've said something when a coworker started coming on to him. I sensed it immediately as soon as I read her first post to him. But I didn't say anything, scared that he might think I'm a bitch or I'm crazy.

She's good. She knew how to time it, friends first, then little cute posts, support and encouraging words as coworkers. My words of praise fell on deaf ears.

Still I tried. For a month, he invited me out but no longer on a weekend. And he didn't invite me to the movies, just dinner. I took him to another show. But he didn't like it I think (he said he wanted to see it). When he finally did ask me to a Friday night date, we ended up sleeping together. When he said he was so happy after, I didn't know what to say, I blurted out, 'aww you're happy because we had sex.'

He offered to treat me to birthday dinner and forgot about it. And I stupidly didn't do anything when I should've called him to ask what's up when I didn't hear from him that night. I emailed him a few days later and he left me a voicemail apologizing that he was so busy with bowling and concerts but he issued no more invitations after that.

He started going out with his coworker and dropped me without any explanation. She's cool, a sport biker and wine enthusiast like him.

I emailed him a month after that his last voicemail, saying that I was glad to reconnect with him, wanted to take things slow and when he asked me for a date, I thought he wanted to date me again. But it went downhill from there and now, no communication so I have to bow out.

Wrong move again. I read you're not supposed to send the closure email. Two weeks after my closure email, he posted on myspace that he's super happy with his girlfriend as they attend banquets and parties and their coworkers are happy for them.

I'm not supposed to mourn someone who strung me along and couldn't even tell me things aren't working out anymore. But I am sad for this loss because I liked him already. I thought he was going to stick around. One part of me argues I wish I knew the right things to do so he would've stayed. The other part of me argues, his behavior wasn't crystal clear either.

am i in an abusive relationship or wat is it really?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:53:54 GMT

my boyfriend and i wer 2gether for 6yrs have a 1yr old we had a few fallen outs befor but a few days ago we fought i mean hit for hit kinda thing he was kinda under alcohol too, i checkd his phone an i notice he called this girl number who he claim he dont no so i get mad an slap da fuck out him with the phone for lien to me we started fighting i really have a trust issue with him, he hit me as if he didnt care i was a woman chocked and punched me he has slapped me befor but the way he hit me this time was like it was demons that had pozest him to freak out like that he bruised my thigh i love him and even tho i think we wer both wrong i dont no wat to do now because i feel like he doesnt even love me the way i love him anymore.i dont want him to hit me again cuz i think i mite killl him, now we havent spoken to each other in days even living in the same house and he's been going out an not sayin anything.... i need some advice please

Update: November 20, 2009.
lol yea we do. its not like he is hit me when ever he wants too i more likely provoked him but i was pissed becuz he lied too me

The guy I broke up with a year ago and dated for 3 years got married last week...

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:47:07 GMT

I am feeling so depressed. I know we were not right for each other (he was unfaithful and gave me an infection) but I wanted it to work and I really cared for him. I hadn't been with anyone except him since my divorce over 15 years ago. Why do relationships have to be so complicated? Now I know why it took me 15 years to even consider a relationship after my divorce. Are all men alike? The ones I've been with are.

Well he is at work right now that's where

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:27:29 GMT

Good laugh is priceless I have to tell YA : )
I got private e-mail asking me where is that guy am taken with :) It took me a moment to think and respond well he is at work :) What is this about and who the hell are you?

Another e-mail NO why don't you have his photo on your profile where is he on it LOL LOL LOL
Do you have photo of your guy-girl on profile or it that big NO NO for you ?

Update: November 20, 2009.
LOL LOL (blush) : ) Yes i understand thats exactly why many including myself people don't do this there is to many insane lunatics to have your loved ones exposed to them by putting up their photos...

havings dreams about your ex on a regular basis.

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:57:06 GMT

i don't understand why, but i always seem to have dreams about my ex boyfriend. they're always the same, but the end is usually similar. it's always us with a group of people, then it turns to just us, sneaking some time alone, and talking about our feelings together. it usually ends up with us kissing, or snuggling or something.

i tried looking up the dream psychology on this, but nothing suited my dream situation.

can anybody suggest what they might mean?

i was thinking maybe i'm still looking for some kind of answer or something.. but i don't care anymore! i'm in a new, very happy relationship. all this was from 2-3 years ago and i'm now in a relationship that's a year old. why won't these dreams leave me alone?

what could they mean?