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Dating / 18 hours ago

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I would like some more opinions so im reposting

So on sunday i asked my guy friend what was going on between us and then i told him that i didn't know what was going on between us but that i like him and i thought he should know. He told me he was not sure what this is. so i asked if he had ever thought about about it and he said that he had. i then asked where we should go from here and he said he honestly didn't know. then said I wish i knew life never makes sense.
so i wanna know what you all think. How often is to often for me to talk to him? i kinda wanna give him some space to figure stuff out but then again i miss talking and hanging out with my friend?

oh btw we have talked since but not in person and they were all short convo's

- Asked by dancindiva9, A Creative, Female, 18-21, Winnipeg, Teaching

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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Worried about him and would like opinions on how to handle.

I dated a man for about 4 months where we spent practically all day talking or texting, and several nights a week together. Things were going great but then he encountered financial problems and health problems. When I asked if he was stressed & worried or if things were not working out w us dating he just said he wanted to get out of his hole and he felt like burden bc his life was in shambles. We have not talked since. He deleted me from his facebook page a few hours later after telling me that. I have been worried about him due to his health problems (chest pain & had just started on blood pressure meds week before along with the other stressors going on with him). I would like to check on him and make sure he is ok. I have been thinking about dropping by one time instead of calling, texting or emailing. I just dont know if that is acceptable or strange behavior? im confused but worried too.

- Asked by doll1975, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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Know what else really sucks?

Knowing you'd never do that to a girl, and watching girls get with guys who will do this. Also, it really sucks when those girls, despite ALL the warning signs, have this happen to them and come bitching to you to pick up the pieces. And after you get them put back together it really, really sucks when they go out and find another guy like this.

Honestly, stay out of relationships until you get over your Edward The Brooding Vampire/Cocky Frat Boy/Outlaw Biker fetishes. Then you won't suck.

- POP'd by A Career Man, Male, 26-28, Washington, DC, Other Profession

You know what sucks....

When your significant other promises they will be over around 9:30. And when they don't show up and don't answer phone calls or text messages, around 11 you go over to their place to see if they're okay.
They don't have a door bell and they live in a shared housing unit, so you have to peek in their window to see if they are home. And when you do, you see them cuddled up with another person.
When you knock on the window and they come out to tell you that part of them wants to be with you and the other part doesn't and they don't know why they lied, you start crying. And they tell you that "I have company, you need to leave." And shut the door in your face.

Yeah. It really kind of sucks. =[

- Asked by beantownchica34, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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Do u think i should still maintain frequent contact with him...

if he is in another country. Doesn't tell me if we should still be together or not, no plans for the future. Basically, we are in different country and been seeing each other for 3 months when he needs to leave.

Its been a month+ since he left and we have been talking like once a week and video call as well. The things we talk about are very much general things, sometimes we say we misses each other. The other day i asked him if he is coming back, but he says no plans yet cause the job is not confirm so he can't decide. I dropped him an email the other night telling him how i feel when i was reminded of him from some of the things we used to do. He replied with empathy saying that it causes a lof of emotions within and told me how he misses some of the things and times spend with me too. He said he is feeling very uncertain now due to job. So, should i still maintain contact with him frequently like what we r doing now or just forget about it? It kills me inside to misses him so much but can't expect what to happen next. My friends says he is just stringing me along by not making plans with me. BTW, he is 12 yrs older than me. Is it true that this is what he is doing?

- Asked by Female, 26-28

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Dating / 20 hours ago

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Torn between new love and good friends....

I met a guy 1.5 mths ago and we are on the fast track to love, making love on the 2nd date and meeting almost every day. I love him very much. But he has many bad issues which many of my good friends frowned upon. They told me he's not worth my time but I still went ahead. Now most of them have avoided me, which drove me to him even more.

He's an ex-substance abuser(alcohol and cocaine), and he's got bad past with girls, even sued for sexual harassement before. And he was also a divorcee. He's stayed cleaned for almost 1 year and attends AA meeting regularly. I can see that he's determined to change for the better and so worried that he will go back to his bad pasts that he needs medication, lexapro to calm him down. He still has a cordial relationship with his ex-wife.

2 weeks ago, he told me he wanted to go slow and treat our relationship as casual. He didn't want to commit exclusively as he's still not ready for one. But we still see each other and make love often.

Now I am torn and confused: does he really love me or just treat me like a fling as my good friends said? How can I get him to commit?

- Asked by A Creative, Female, 29-35

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Dating / 20 hours ago

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Recent study shows men say "I love you" after 7 months.

And women take about 8 months.
But is it true lesbian couples say "I love you" after about 2 weeks?

Update: November 20, 2009.
Yeah, surrealoptimism knows what i'm talkin' about.

- Asked by enduro, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35

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Dating / 21 hours ago

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Make nice or tough love??? S/O's 20 yr old ex thinks it's just ok to call persistently at 6:30 am!!!

She's a nice girl,but uses drugs, can't keep a job and while being a social butterfly,she has no real friends. She must be in trouble at home and decides to crash at my ex's place (he is at mine). This is not the first time she's tried to call or txt at such crazy times. He doesnt pick up or reply but I feel like she's gonna turn it into a bad habit yet I also feel bad for her. What to do?

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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Dating / 22 hours ago

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A good idea or shall I leave it?

This guy and I were dating for about 2 months (we were intimate).

Well, the thing is I always knew he wasn't a long-term potential but for once I decided to just be and live in the moment and I had fun with him and I'll never regret it ever.

The last time we met (about a week and a half ago), I instinctively felt he was thinking the same that there's no future and I 'knew' (women's intuition) we wouldn't be contacting or seeing each other again even though we never said it. And that was true, we haven't had any contact since. This is for the best.

Well, I never got a chance to thank him for all the fun times we had. He didn't know this but I was going through a rough patch (I still am) when we met and he helped me take my mind off things and put a smile on my face and I feel grateful for that.

I was thinking of dropping him an email thanking him and good luck for the future, etc., but my friends say just leave it because he doesn't know my situation and he'd just think it's weird.

So a good idea to send him an email or not?

Or is that totally weird? Would he be freaked out by it?

Update: November 20, 2009.
Thanks everyone for your answers. They are very helpful. I just want to clarify that I do NOT wish to start anything with him at all, whether it's a booty call, relationship or friendship, because as I said, we were never meant to be. I just wanted to thank him, that's all. I wasn't even expecting a reply from him. I thought I'd do this because my father died suddenly recently and I never got a chance to say anything I wanted to. Anyway, that's a different situation. Thank you again!

- Asked by A Trendsetter, Female, 26-28, Who Cares?

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Dating / 22 hours ago

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What to get my Ex Girlfriend for her BDay????

My Ex and I split up a couple of months ago. She broke up with me. I talked to her a few times after the break up but then she wouldn't talk to me. Now all of a sudden she is texting me here and there. I still believe that she has feelings for me and is starting to realize that she might have made a mistake... Her birthday is in December.... I want to get her something and I wanna get her something that shows I still care and love her without going over board...

Any suggestions???

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 22-25, Construction

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