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How are your plans for Thanksgiving coming???? Do you have a menu, how many people are coming, etc?

WTF is wrong with these women?

I don't understand how any Mother who loves her children could allow a boyfriend/husband treat her children poorly, do you?

My current common law husband doesn't not like my children. The only time he has any interaction wit

My current common law husband doesn't not like my children. The only time he has any interaction with them, he is diciplining them. He tends to have a very firm approach to dicipline and fails to see the good in them. I tried to explain to him that he is always coming across as the bad guy, because this is all the kids see.
Also, to make the issue worse, he tends to place his own 18 year daughter (who doesn't live with us)on a pedestal. She can do no wrong in his eyes.
I constantly feel as though I have to defend my children when he is punishing them for something that should not even be an issue. I am constantly in the middle. I feel as though my feelings are NEVER a consideration to him.
I keep myself completely removed from his daughter and any issues that arise. I feel it is not my business. Many times I am tempted to voice my opinion, but out of respect to him I will not. I am then left feeling that he should have the same respect for me.
To make things worse, he has (for the past three years) gone to spend Christmas with his ex wife and daughter (over night). I feel it is time that he spends it here with me and my children, since he is a part of our household and daily life. Once again I'm left feeling as though he only wants to be a part of my kids life when they have done something bad (in his eyes), and doesn't want to share the good times. As much as I want him hear, if I insist he will be miserable thinking I am forcing him to be around when he'd rather not. He knows his daughter is more then welcome also. I don't believe he even gives her the option, and that he simply choses to be at her house (with her mother, his ex).

My current common law husband doesn't not like my children. The only time he has any interaction wit

My current common law husband doesn't not like my children. The only time he has any interaction with them, he is diciplining them. He tends to have a very firm approach to dicipline and fails to see the good in them. I tried to explain to him that he is always coming across as the bad guy, because this is all the kids see.
Also, to make the issue worse, he tends to place his own 18 year daughter (who doesn't live with us)on a pedestal. She can do no wrong in his eyes.
I constantly feel as though I have to defend my children when he is punishing them for something that should not even be an issue. I am constantly in the middle. I feel as though my feelings are NEVER a consideration to him.
I keep myself completely removed from his daughter and any issues that arise. I feel it is not my business. Many times I am tempted to voice my opinion, but out of respect to him I will not. I am then left feeling that he should have the same respect for me.
To make things worse, he has (for the past three years) gone to spend Christmas with his ex wife and daughter (over night). I feel it is time that he spends it here with me and my children, since he is a part of our household and daily life. Once again I'm left feeling as though he only wants to be a part of my kids life when they have done something bad (in his eyes), and doesn't want to share the good times. As much as I want him hear, if I insist he will be miserable thinking I am forcing him to be around when he'd rather not. He knows his daughter is more then welcome also. I don't believe he even gives her the option, and that he simply choses to be at her house (with her mother, his ex).

Just out of curiosity.....

I've noticed there are a lot of people bashing pregnant women on the site. The main complaint seems to be that the world is already over-populated so women shouldn't be out having anymore.

Perhaps this doesn't sit well with me because I happen to be pregnant myself but I'm still curious as to why people think it's any of their business. My husband and I take complete resposibility for the children we're bringing into this world so what makes you think you deserve to be here and they don't?

I've also noticed that a lot of the bashers are those who are young and haven't even begun to consider family life themselves or are children haters.

I'd love to hear everyone's rational thoughts on the matter please and Thank You. :)

Update: November 19, 2009.
I completely agree that people who cannot afford them or don't plan to take care of them once they are here shouldn't have them. Just wanted everyone to know we're on the same page when it comes to that. :)

A different kind of inheritance.

If you had a serious genetic disorder, would you intentionally have children? Knowing that there was a very good chance you could pass this onto your children?

There's a woman on Inside Edition who has Osteogenesis Imperfecta, which causes brittle bones and underdeveloped lungs, and a failure to grow to a normal height. She's 2'4" tall and wheelchair-bound.

She just had her 3rd child. The pregnancies were life-threatening. One of her children inherited the disorder.

What would you do if you had a condition like this and wanted children?

I'm not judging - I'm just curious about your opinion.

Help me not be upset at the "fire trap" remark. It still bothers me

TODAY: I am still upset at the "fire trap" please help me not to be Most of this is resolved for me. The only part I am still upset about is when she said "fire trap". The reason I feel this way is due to the fact every time I look at (not in) the plastic bags I get anxious, not because I think there will be a fire, but I start to think that is what she thinks and I dont know how to deal with that. Help When I asked her was she implying I should give away my clothes and she said "No what I am saying is cut down on how many you buy, you are running out of room to store them"

BACKGROUND: Would you care about the mice comment and fire hazard comment or would you ignore it? Two weeks ago my mom said to me she wants to go to the renting office because the lease is up in June and my mom wants to get a smaller apartment. I said to my mom that right now I cannot afford to move on my own because I am not working. Then my mom started to get nasty saying "that you took up all the closet space, that your room and the part of the den closet you have will go up in flames if we have a fire and we could get mice" and none of this true. Then the next day my mom went out to go to the supermarket. We have one parking spot we pay for and the other car that is not in the paid parking spot has to park on the street. So we go back and forth with the cars. Most of the time my car is the paid spot because I was drive her every where. So when she went out today her car was in the paid spot - when she came home she called me to come downstairs to switch spots - I would put my car in the paid spot and she would put it in the street spot my car was in.As we were putting the bags in the wagon to wheel the groceries upstairs she said "If you ever threaten me again that you did not want me at your birthday celebration then I will never give you the paid spot" So I thought this was a perfect lead in and said "Well I was upset and the mice and fire hazard comment" and she said "Well it is a fire trap" this got me mad and we had a fight. I asked her if she meant I should give my clothes away and she said no. What do you think and would you have thought she meant to give my clothes away

What to get Mom for a wedding gift?

My mom is getting married! I don't know what to give her as a wedding gift. It seems tacky to give cash to your mother, and they already have too much stuff in their house. I was thinking about getting them a gift certificate to PetSmart, because they have 3 dogs and 2 lizards. Would that be tacky? Help!

When It's Your Birthday?

What would you like to receive as a gift??

Am I the only one who dreads going to a children's school concert?

My daughter is in band,choir and music and her school is having a concert tonight. I just dread going and sitting there through almost 2 hours.
I know I will be going for her and I will and do support her. She loves it all. I just wish they didn't have a concert. I find it a time waster.
Am I alone on this feeling? Maybe I'm just being grumpy.

Update: November 19, 2009.
Let me clarify something to everyone, I enjoy seeing my daughter but when her part is finished I get real bored real fast!

AWWW! Too Bad You're "Preggers". Now, We'll have to deal with another

~OMG~ ...that poor guy!

I keep throwing up.and whatever i eat makes me sick!

Now that i am pregnant i truly became to regret it.intolerable state.i fail to comprehend people telling being pregnant makes u feel happy both physically and mentally.i am out of my mind and out of my comfort,sobbing all day long and arguing with my poor husband. Heel sorry for the things i do but then its too late